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Tantric massage – I love playing with people’s bodies

April 28, 2018

Tantric Massage – I love playing with people’s bodies

As a Tantric massage therapist I see many bodies. They are all different, and yet they are all the same. And I get permission to play with them – to tease and please, to stroke and tickle, gently and firmly.

Always I touch with love and respect – with my intention of healing and my powerful Reiki and feminine energy flowing through.

After a short chat in which the client (you) often says they are nervous or worried; I assure you that you are “just going to have a relaxing massage”. And that the anxious feeling is usually one of two things. It can be an issue that has come up to be released, and Now is the time. Or it could be the fear of the unknown – because you really don’t know what will happen. So if you think about how you want to feel when you leave, relaxed and happy after releasing the tension of life, it helps you to settle.

Also I talk about Conscious Breathing and we take a couple of deep, conscious breaths. That helps everyone to relax more.

When you are comfortable lying face downwards on my soft massage table, listening to relaxing background music, with gentle candlelight and sweet smelling air, your Tantra Pleasure Experience is about to begin.

I start with a dedication to the Goddess to bring healing energy from the Love Grid, through me to help you relax, release and surrender to receive pleasure. So you can de-stress and let go of all your tension and out of your head!

We do some breathwork together which helps you relax more, especially during your Sensual Tantric Massage. Then I start stroking your body all over with gentle loving fingers, hands, arms. When you sigh, moan and groan with pleasure, I give you more! It’s great to have feedback. I love your expressions of pleasure. It inspires me to explore more. So often I will ask you: Do you like this? Do you like soft and gentle strokes? Or firm pressure? Does it tickle? Or is it sensual and relaxing?

Sometimes I use feathers to tickle you, or scratchy things to stimulate you or firm pressure in different areas of your body.

Your head and hair can be caressed and stroked or gently pulled for interesting effects. All in the name of playful pleasure…

Your back and bottom are more sensitive than you think. Your arms and hands get healing strokes too, with soothing light massage oil. It gives me great pleasure to explore your body’s sensitivities, and to help moisturise and relax your hands, arms and legs. If you want something different – just let me know!

When you have turned over, I have a whole new playground opening up! (Are you still aware of your breathing? And your energy in your Whole Body?)

I will probably tease you by starting with your legs or tummy – tingling or tickling or massaging those sensitive areas. And depending on your level of relaxation at that point I will ask you for more feedback.

Stroking your legs, body and arms in long or short strokes, I love to give you relaxing pleasure from toes to fingers… My enjoyment is doubled by your expression of your happiness – a release of breath, a sigh, and mmmmmm helps me enjoy it more!

Sometimes there’s a guided meditation or instructions. I sometimes take you on a journey through your chakras (or energy centres). There are seven chakras and they are similar to the colours of the rainbow. This enhances your energy flow, especially if you can visualise or “feel” the colours, and it gives you a different experience in your sensual Tantric massage.

Towards the end of your Tantric massage, which may or may not include multiple orgasms, ecstasy, full body orgasm, joy and bliss and general relaxation, you could feel like you are “coming back” from your journey.

I can help you come back down (often with a bit of resistance “I don’t want to come back!”) and you can float for a while longer in your euphoric state.

When you are back – VERY relaxed and also energised, sometimes tingling and energised, then you can have a quick shower or enjoy the feeling of water-dispersible oil moisturising your skin and body for the rest of your day.

Afterwards, people often say they feel like they could go to sleep, as they are SO relaxed. However it’s similar to the state you are in when you wake up in the morning and are relaxed, but it’s a conscious state.

Your sleep that night will be peaceful… Some people tell me they are still tingling two days later!!

And of course you can come back and have another Tantra Pleasure Experience, Tantric massage or Sensual Massage with me again…

For your Tantric Pleasure

Ally

As one blissful person described it: “You do so many things. Have done so many things, it seems. I think you speak with far more than your hands! Perhaps you heal and fulfill others with deep secrets. Your body and all its sensuality are mere sails harnessing the winds of a sweet erotic release; it is the oceans you take others to that eventually floods souls and banishes time.”

Tantra Practice Playshop in Brisbane

August 31, 2017

Come along to a Tantra Practice Playshops in Brisbane

7pm-11pm

$70 for couple, $50 for men, $30 for women* (includes Supper)

FAQs – see below

Testimonials for TPP – below

Connect, learn and practise tantric techniques and exercises in safe space
Give and receive touch safely – without agenda, with boundaries
Have fun, make connections with like minded people
For singles, friends and couples

We endeavour to have each Tantra Practice Playshop gender balanced, so if you bring a friend of the opposite sex, you are more likely to be accepted, as sometimes there is a Waiting List. Couples can be friends to maintain the gender balance.

Playshops are held monthly on Saturdays in Adelaide, and in other cities by request as available. Ally will be in Brisbane on 12 December 2018, so this Playshop is specially available then. She has previously organised Playshops in Brisbane on 31 August 2017 and 31 August 2018.

You do not have to have Tantric experience, just be open minded and willing to learn.

Expand your tantric knowledge and Tantra practice
Have fun doing Tantra exercises with different people
Practise how to move your sexual energy through your body
Learn how to connect with your self (spiritual), your body, and others
How to create and improve intimacy
Easily learn about how to set boundaries
Enjoy safe loving consensual touch
Expand your spiritual energy with sensual awareness

This Playshop is for open-minded men women and couples to learn and practise tantra and other sacred sexuality practices and have fun in a safe sacred space that’s playful gentle healing and respectful.
All exercises are safe, with consensual touch and CLOTHED.
You will be guided through some of the following: tantric exercises, meditation, body work, touch, energy movement, breath, dancing, massage

There is no nudity, no alcohol; no drugs and no sex intercourse involved.

** Delicious healthy Supper, juices and soft drinks provided (let us know if you have any dietary needs).

BOOKINGS ESSENTIAL, preferably to Ally, as numbers are limited

BOOK HERE with your contact details – email with Tantra Practice Playshop in Subject Line

TESTIMONIALS:

Last night was just perfect. Thank you Ally (Adelaide 2017)

We enjoyed last night very much. (couple Adelaide 2017)

Hi Ally,
I just wanted to thank you for inviting me you your recent tantra night (2014). What an amazing evening!
Being a first timer, I wasn’t too sure what to expect, however, the positive energy and inner happiness I felt from doing the various exercises and sharing each moment was unbelievable.
Such a lovely group of people to spend an evening with and a great supper too!!!
Thanks ally, see you soon,
Namaste, K Adelaide

Blessings Ally.
I cannot thank you enough for the beautiful space which was created last night (March 2013) and the safety and energy in which it was provided and given to us as a group. I was deeply enriched by the experience and when I sent forth the energy, sent it home in the direction of my husband. When I returned late in the evening, He desired me so fully that the love making which followed was energetic and encapsulating. It coursed through us like a river of magic through our spiritual beings. Heaven found herself in our arms and we were blessed with her presence.
Thank you for taking a chance with having me along (when you knew little of me) and I look forward to spending more evenings with yourself and others, in the sacred provision of life shared, explored and discovered.
Namaste. D Adelaide

“Hi Ally. I’d like to thank you again for the opportunity and lovely night (March 2013), it was incredible. You and Peter created a warm, safe and loving space where I actually felt more free, cared for and able to express myself in ways that would generally make me feel quite anxious. The other guests were all beautiful people and added to this environment, making it a wonderful night. I’ve never felt so connected to another individual in such a short space of time, it was a very positive and uplifting experience. During the night I felt my confidence increase, which has continued, and I feel things can only improve over time. I certainly learnt a lot, not just about tantra, a little overwhelming to be honest.
Again thank you, you’ve been an excellent guide. Looking forward to the next one. J (Adelaide)”

“I’d like to say thank you for being a wonderful facilitator/group leader Ally – you’re a highly skilled, professional Tantra Woman & you held the group beautifully. You created a safe space for people to relax into the practices. Gold Star to Ally!
The whole experience was so uplifting, lately I have been stressed out!
I thought all the people there were exceptional – beautiful with positive energies! Yeah it was a great night and one to remember !
When’s the next one ?” (Adelaide)

FAQ

Are the men clean, honest, quality, respectful, safe, friendly and normal?

Yes. I have personally checked every ‘single man’ who attends the Tantra Playshops in Adelaide. The pre-requisite is for men to have had at least one Tantra Pleasure Experience or Tantra session with me. They may be a bit shy, under confident or over confident though…
In Brisbane they have been recommended by Marilyn…

Will the women be positive, pleasant, open and friendly?

Yes they are personally vetted by me and open minded and friendly. However they may be a bit worried about feeling safe, and that their boundaries are respected.

The Couples who attend – are they safe, sharing, open and friendly?

In Adelaide, Couples are required to complete a Questionnaire and some have had sessions with me.

Do you have to join in with everything?

You can choose whether you do an exercise or not. You can set boundaries so that you are safe

What limits or boundaries are available?

You set your own boundaries and limits.
eg touching only on exposed skin. Touching arms face head is OK etc. Touch must be light and gentle. Please massage my shoulders firmly. Please don’t touch my head/hair! Please don’t touch my breasts. You can touch and stroke my lower arms and hands.

Is everyone married or in a relationship or single and available?

Some people have partners, and are here with them, some are not. Agreements are made between partners about limits and boundaries for each other.
Singles aren’t necessarily looking for a relationship. The Tantra Playshops are not about pairing people up, it’s about practicing Tantra with a partner, which may or may not be yours.
At the beginning of the party everyone tells the whole group their status, boundaries and agreements.

Will there be more men than women at the Tantra Practice Playshop?

No. Every party we endeavour to have gender balanced with equal numbers of men and women. You can choose to be with a woman or man in some of the exercises.

Do I have to take my clothes off?

Some people may take some of their clothes off because they get hot, however full nudity is not involved. You choose your level of comfort and clothing. You need to be OK with others partial nakedness, however no more than you see on any beach in summer!

What are the ages of people attend a Tantra Practice Playshop?

All age groups are welcome, and each Playshop has different attendees, however most people are between 30 and 50.

Contact Ally to book your place

email or book or to go on mailing list for these Playshops and other Events.

Tantric Actions for better Sex

August 10, 2017

Five Tantric Actions for Better Sex

Why Tantric Sex?

To connect
To create intimacy
To turn on
To stimulate
To control.

2. Conscious Breathing to create intimacy
Ask your partner to breath out and make a sound – a moan or aaah….
Breathe with them and harmonise your breathing. One person may be slower or faster than the other at the beginning.
Do this for about 2 minutes
When you harmonise you can hear it
Swap over and your partner follows your breathing

2. Eye Gazing to connect

Sit together, facing each other, without talking and look in each others eyes for about 5 minutes
Feel the love in your heart for your lover
Breathe together, decide who will follow and who will lead

3. Physically turn yourself on

As you breathe in, do your Kegels (squeeze your Pelvic Floor or PC muscles)
Release as you breathe out
Do this for about 5 minutes separately, then do it together
To get your energy and juices flowing

4. Leather and Lace circle – to stimulate

Breathe together, sitting holding hands, eyes open or closed
HE gives his “leather” (male energy) – breathing up from his genitals to her heart down to her genitals across to yours
SHE gives her “lace” – (female energy) – from your heart to his heart and down to his genitals, across to her genitals and up to her heart.
This is good to do in yab yum – sitting with legs out or bent and genitals touching
rocking back and forwards – very stimulating and a great way to start making love

5. Control your energy

Continue conscious breathing together
When lingam* is inside yoni**, keep the energy flowing in a circle…
yab yum couple

* lingam = penis ** yoni = vagina

Stop when necessary to keep control, or change position.
Enjoy!

For more ideas on how to use Tantra and simple practical Tantric techniques to enhance your sex life, see my book “What Men and Women Really Want – 6 Tantric Love Secrets” available now in paperback. Order here.

Yoni massage

September 19, 2016

What is a Yoni Massage?

Yoni massage (or Vagina massage, or Sacred massage, or Tantra massage for a woman) is a whole body massage, which includes genitals, within your boundaries and limits.

First of all what is a yoni? What is a vagina? Is it the inside, the outside, or just the lips? Is it the same as the pussy? Is it the clit or clitoris?

“The vagina is the muscular and tubular part of the female genital tract, which in humans extends from the vulva to the cervix. At the deep end, the cervix (neck of the uterus) bulges into the vagina. The vaginal opening is protected by the labia or lips of the vagina. The labia majora (or the outer labia) are larger and fattier, while the labia minora are folds of skin between the outer labia. The labia surround and protect the clitoris and the openings of the vagina and the urethra. All vaginas and labia look slightly different.” (Wikipedia)

Pussy is our slang name for vagina.

Yoni is from Sanskrit and means “sacred garden”. People from India call the vagina a yoni. It literally means “vagina” or “womb”. And it is the symbol of the goddess Shakti or Devi in Hinduism. In Hindu philosophy, according to Tantra, “yoni” is the origin of life.

Clitoris (or clit for short) is the small, sensitive, erectile part of the female genitals.

And what then is a Yoni Massage? What is a Vagina Massage? Is it the whole body, or just the outside, include the inside? Is it painful or pleasurable? Do you touch my breasts? Do you stimulate me? Will I have an orgasm?

No matter what you call it, you will be pampered and pleasured. You can feel safe to be vulnerable. Being gently stroked all over – softly, sensually, with no expectation of anything except relaxation and enjoyment.

You can concentrate on your breathing, and your Tantric masseuse can lead you through a beautiful guided meditation . Starting with soft feather light strokes, then moving on to using unscented light massage oil, your body is covered with pleasure.

You can release stress and tension, let go of sexual blocks and trauma, tune into your feminine energy and feel that energy in your body. The healing can shift your feelings from negative to positive or from ambivalent to an-ti-c-i-pa—-tion!

You will be asked permission at the beginning to find out what your boundaries are. Your massage will be as relaxing, energising, sensual erotic or sexual as YOU want it to be! It’s all up to you and what you are comfortable with!

Its about being asked what you like. If you don’t know, just exploring your body, gently and sensually, with respect and gentle nurturing love.

Orgasm – to have or not have?

Women experience pleasure like a wave, men often experience it as a mountain – to be conquered. A wave is much more fun, because you can ride the wave of pleasure, crest on the peak, surf the curl and then wait for the next one. You can stay there, riding the waves of ecstasy, one after the other. Or you can experience the rush as you glide to the beach and lie panting on the beach in the afterglow of that wild ride.

Regular orgasms can release tension so that you can heal past emotional experiences; feel more positive and confident about yourself and your life; relax and sleep better.

Breast Massage

Full body massage includes gentle stroking massage of breasts, can include nipples, which can be relaxing or stimulating, again depending on what you want…

Face stroking can be included too, if you like. Hair stroking, Arms and hands are also included at your request.

Vagina Massage – Pussy Massage – Yoni Massage

Finally, with permission, the yearning yoni is gently stroked, teased and touched. If she wants to be. This is totally up to you when we get to this point. Using special water-soluble massage oil (unscented), your thighs can be stimulated, and, with respectful permission, your yoni…

Does you clit feel energised? Are you relaxed, excited, turned on? Feeling juicy?

You can be feeling so safe, comfortable and nurtured that yoni touch is welcome. Or not.

This loving experience can be physical emotional and psychological – a holistic experience that can shift your feelings and tune you into your own inner beauty and feminine power

More information about yoni massages. More information about yoni pillow.
To make a booking with Ally HERE

The Magic of Breathing

August 17, 2016

Conscious Breathing is a good skill to have. Awareness of your breathing helps you control your state of mind, release anxiety, and tune in to your body.
If you don’t breathe, you die!

Pranayama

Pranayama is a Sanskrit word meaning “breath control.” The word is composed from two Sanskrit words: prana meaning life force (noted particularly as the breath), and either yama (to restrain or control the prana, implying a set of breathing techniques where the breath is intentionally altered in order to produce specific results) or the negative form ayāma, meaning to extend or draw out (as in extension of the life force). It is a yogic discipline with origins in ancient India. (Wikipedia)

As you become aware of your breathing, you can “play” with it:

Colour your breath – imagine your breath is coloured, coming into your body through your nose, down into your lungs, circulating through your body and going out through your mouth
Count your breath – breathe in for 3 counts, hold for 3 counts, exhale for 3 counts. And vary it for longer or shorter
See your breath – imagine the rainbow colours of your chakras as you breathe in and upwards through each of them and see the colour go out of the Crown Chakra at the top of your head
Feel your breath on your lips and nose as you breathe in and out
Hear your breath – make a sound when breathing out – a sigh, a moan, om or a hum. Or repeat an affirmation (I love myself) or mantra (Om mane padme hum)
Control your breath – both holding your breath in and holding it when breathing out.

Conscious Breathing – exercise

Moving energy around your body with your breath and awareness is the most important part of Tantra and control. Take this exercise nice and slow, allowing yourself to breathe in and out a few times at each stage. Be careful not to strain. If you feel dizzy or light-headed, just breathe normally for a while.

Start by becoming aware of your breath, breathing in through your nose and out through your mouth.
Feel the gentle touch of your breath on your lips, and the tip of your nose, as you breathe in and out.
Taste the air on your tongue when you exhale through your mouth
Tune into the feeling of the inside of your nose as you breathe in – the hairs, the space, and your nostrils.
Let your breath become deeper, and begin to allow yourself to make a sound as you breath out. Vary the exhaled sound, eg ‘aah’, ‘mmm’ or ‘um’, louder or softer, sweeter or growlier!
Imagine that you are breathing in to your genitals and breathe out towards your fingers and toes.
As you inhale, feel fresh new energy coming into your body. As you exhale, imagine you are releasing old energy, thoughts and worries.
Experiment with holding your breath after you breathe in, eg inhale to a count of three, hold for three, exhale for three. As long as you keep it flowing.

What is self love?

January 7, 2016

Self love is being in heart space.

How do I get out of head space – thoughts, feelings, chatter, busy busy? And relax into my heart and love my self?

Here are 6 ways:

Awareness
Increase your awareness of your body – tense your hands, feel the tension – then relax them and feel the release. Screw up your face and hold your breath, then relax and smile. Stretch out one leg and circle your foot, be aware of your foot moving; then stretch the other leg out and circle the other foot, awareness in your toes. Rub your hand on your tummy if you are sitting down, on your buttock or thigh if you are standing, feeling from the inside, being aware of the sensations only. Be aware of loving your body’s movement and stillness. Send gratitude and love to your body for the way it automatically responds to your thoughts.
Breath
Sit quietly, placing one hand on your heart and the other on your belly. Breathe out into your belly, feel it rise and fall. Be aware of your breath going in and out through your mouth and nose. Take 20 breaths, imagining your breath coming in through your belly and circulating up to your heart – loving your self.
Chanting meditation
Use Indian mantras or your favourite TV jingle, or a favourite song or poem. Out loud is best. Also humming works, or whispering. When you can hear it, the sound resonates.
When you are in a group eg saying AUM or singing, the sound amplifies, and the energy is stronger.
When you meditate on the repetitive sound, it can take you away from your thoughts and worries, and bring you into the present moment, ready to love your self.
Dancing and movement
Dancing is a good way to love your self. When you dance you can be lost in the moment. Free flow dancing is great exercise and a good way to release tension and relax your whole body. Movement, even swaying as you are sitting, can release tension so that you can relax, enjoy the moment and love your self.
Massage and stroking
I love touch, massage and stroking, so my biased opinion is also for you to stroke your self lovingly. Caress your face, your hair, your head, as if you were caressing your lover. You are! Then extend the touch to your arms and shoulders, stroke down your torso, your body, breasts, legs toes and feet. You can use soft fabrics like velvet, or find a feather to stroke yourself with for a different feeling. Massage that love in!
Voyeur
If you want to really stretch loving your self and your physical body – stand in front of a full length mirror and look at yourself – lovingly. Praise all the parts of your body you normally criticise. Stroke, massage, preen, and love that wonderful sexy person in the mirror! Watch what happens to your face and how you feel about your self afterwards…

Meditation is another way to get in touch with your self and love your self.

Use a candle to look at – focus on the flame and watch your thoughts go by – coming back to the contemplation of the candle.
Use the smell of incense to waft you away into a meditative reverie.
Read a book and love your self to be lost in the world of your imagination.
Slowly touch and stroke your body for self pleasure, whispering positive loving words of love eg
- I love my legs which carry me through life
- I appreciate my hands to feel my body
- I love my skin, its softness and hardness and hairiness
- I enjoy my genitals being gently stroked and held
- I love my eyes to see sunsets sunrises and people I love
- I love my self
- I love me, I do.

If you would like to love your self more, pamper your self, and combine 3 of the 6 ways above, contact me for a Tantra Massage! Bookings HERE and my Schedule HERE.

Ally Thomas 2016