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What is Tantra

Here is an excerpt from the Introduction of my book “What Men and Women Really Want – 6 Tantric Love Secrets” for you to ponder over.

What is Tantra?

Tantra* is a buzz word that most people have heard, but not so many really understand. Some people think it’s a form of kinky sex. Or they have heard that Sting has Tantric sex for over five hours. Others believe that it is esoteric, involving meditation and ritual. I hope to explain its simplicity and share with you some practical, fun ways to use Tantra in your life.

Introducing Ally

Hi I’m Ally Thomas. Since July 2009, I have taught, pleasured and inspired thousands of people, educating them about Tantra and sacred sexuality. I have helped them to tune in to their sexual and spiritual energy. And also to learn how to love themselves more fully and deeply. 

My first experience of Tantra was in 1996. While visiting a girlfriend in Adelaide, I noticed a brochure entitled ‘Women’s Sexuality Workshop’ on her coffee table. I just had to read it!  Barbara Carellas, a world renowned Tantra Teacher, was coming to town. My friend had done a women’s workshop with Barbara a while ago. She told me that Barbara teaches women how to have an orgasm without touching themselves.  Intrigued, I booked in.  It was an amazing experience. I, and most of the other women in the workshop, succeeded in learning how to have incredible energetic orgasms! Also I ended up attending a further three of her workshops for women. Then I attended Barbara’s Tantra Workshop evening for men and women.  This was my very first taste of Tantra, and I was curious to learn more. Since then I have read and studied many books, attended courses and seminar with different teachers and gurus. I have also practised with friends and lovers. I am passionate about learning and experiencing more about Tantra.

Why am I so passionate about Tantra in my life?

My experience of Tantra is that is unites the physical and the spiritual. It is about joining awareness with breath, to balance and harmonise my masculine and feminine energies. Tantra also enables me to experience ecstasy, joy and bliss.

Why do I love teaching about Tantra by giving a Tantra Massage?

I call it a Tantra Pleasure Experience. My first pleasure is feeling my hands stroking and pleasuring the other person’s body. The second pleasure is from watching and hearing their ecstatic moans and groans. Listening to them trying to describe their feeling of delicious euphoria – the tingling, vibrating energy spreading through their body. Before, during or afterwards. My third pleasure is taking people to another place. It’s a space that is hard to describe in words. It often leaves them relaxed and energized at the same time!

Tantra Benefits

The benefits of Tantra experiences include:

  • relaxation or euphoria
  • healing of physical pain
  • experiencing a Spiritual Energy Orgasm
  • relief from stress
  • surrendering to pleasure instead of feeling that you have to give back.

There are many ideas and misconceptions about Tantra, because it’s not easy to adequately describe the experience of Tantra. I am grateful for permission to use some of my clients’ words and testimonials who have attempted to define it. These are given in Appendix 1. However, as I often say, it’s like trying to explain sex to a virgin!

This book is for the adventurous man or woman, ready to pleasure and cherish herself or himself. Or his or her lover. You will need a bit of patience to practise the ancient art of Tantra. This can lead to you becoming a satisfied, contented partner. For some people you will experience an increase in your masculine or feminine energy, greater confidence and mutual ecstasy. This book is for men or women to buy and share with their partner, lover or spouse. Importantly, it’s for couples to share with each other.

In this exciting book, I will give you six powerful secrets gained from over 18 years of experience learning and practising Tantra. My extensive teaching using Tantra massage, playshops, workshops and presentations is reflected here. And my knowledge from coaching and counselling thousands of men, women and couples all over Australia and New Zealand.

Tantra Love Secrets in this book

You will discover what is Tantra:

  • How to last longer in the bedroom – what every man and woman wants…in Chapter 1.
  • How to relax and pleasure a woman with sensual massage techniques – and have her begging you for more…in Chapter 6. What every woman really wants!
  • In Chapter 3  …you will learn how you can have a spiritual energy orgasm by yourself, without touching yourself!
  • How to connect at a deeper level with each other and pleasure your lover more. The secret that every passionate couple wants to know…in Chapter 5.
  • In Chapter 4…Tantra massage and yoni massage
  • How to take your sexual experience with your lover to another level with Tantric sex techniques.
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Each chapter title is a Love Secret, based on the letters in the word TANTRA:

T is for Teasing …

A is for Aah! (Breathing)

N is for Now

T is for Touch

R is for Rapport

A is for Amore (Love)

How to use this book and unlock Tantra for you

You can read any chapter first, as it’s not sequential. Just jump in wherever you like! The words in bold* refer to words in the extensive Glossary towards the end of the book.

Each letter stands for an aspect of Tantra that you can use and practise – by yourself or with a partner. Tantric techniques can help to improve your sex life, enrich your relationship, empower your lover and reach higher fulfilment together. Inside your sacred space* (a special physical place, usually separate from your bedroom, where you create an area for your Tantra practice) as well as in your bedroom. I am using examples which are based on my personal experience with lovers, Tantric consorts and clients. All testimonials have permission to be used, and names have been protected. My integrity and confidentiality is essential when teaching sacred sexuality and intimacy, especially to couples.

Assistance with Sexual dysfunctions

Sexual dysfunctions (PE, ED) and other sexual problems experienced by men and women can often be healed with application of natural Tantric methods. Also sexual education is used, as people often have missed out on human sex ed.

Use this book to help you surrender to enjoyment, release stress and relax more, and give and receive pleasure. As a result, you can enjoy more joy and bliss in your life. The main key secret in Tantra is love. Loving yourself, loving your partner, and connecting your hearts, bodies, emotions, minds and spirits together in harmony and bliss. What women really want (and men too) is to be loved, to feel loved. Men and women want to be touched with love, to hear that they are loved, see that they are loved, to taste and smell love. Here are some old and new ways to do this.

At the end of each chapter, you will find a Tantric Exercise. These exercises are practical ways to bring the experience of Tantra into your life and relationships. There are also links to videos, stories, and Tantra techniques throughout the book. These give you practical guidance on how to discover and experience Tantra for yourself and your partner. To dispel myths, fears and misconceptions about Tantra, Tantra massage and sacred sexuality, I also include some powerful educational information.

See some of my free Tantra tips at http://www.mytantramassage.com.au.

For more information see the 4 Appendices in the book. Words in bold are linked and defined in the Glossary.

Enjoy reading, sharing and practising the exercises in my book, starting with ‘T for Tease’ in Chapter one….

For your Tantric pleasure,
Ally

* see Glossary.

Get your copy Now

To get an ebook copy of this book HERE

Order a paperback copy of this book HERE

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Personal & Relationship Passion Maps

Love Passion and Purpose Coaching with Ally

What is a Passion Map?

The expression of our genuine passions can have a vitalising and inspiring influence on those around us. Finding similar passions with others opens up possibilities for whole new experiences and connections. Passion is not a given, it needs to be cultivated and nurtured.

Passions are … the deep inner drives, to reach for what we love. Our passions awaken and energise our relationships.

Would you like to be able to:

  • Learn more about yourself and love yourself more?
  • Deep dive into your soul?
  • To find your highest purpose in life?
  • Easily find your star qualities?
  • Create your personal Passion Map as a reflection of yourself?
  • Find your life purpose?
  • Refine your passions?
  • Create a vision for your optimal future success?
  • Set some goals using spiritual soul centred gentle guided meditation?

Passion in Relationship 

Do you and your partner want to :

  • Discover what passions you share in your relationship?
  • Create a powerful shared vision & potential for being together?
  • Develop focus on what gives your relationship meaning and purpose?
  • Generate energy, excitement, creativity and courage in your relationship?
  • Experience the essence of who you are together?
  • Connect your relationship with your partner at a deeper level?

Connecting with our own and shared passion is an important key for thriving and deeply rewarding relationships. It fosters an important bond with our partner based on our shared passions and visions for our life and relationship. Shared passion helps the relationships in our life strengthen and grow.

Having passion in a relationship is essential for keeping it alive, healthy, growing, intimate and connected. Passion in relationship can be an intense feeling, enthusiasm, energy, affection, love and desire. Passion means being authentic with ourselves and our partners, being both powerful and vulnerable, sharing our joys, being open, having a willingness to go deeper and taking responsibility to create what we love in our lives.

Perhaps it is time to revisit the possibility of empassioning your own relationship?

What you can expect in a Passion Map with Ally

A Relationship Passion Map is a powerful way to take your partnership a step, or leap, further – to deepen your understanding of each other and the way you create relationship: to clarify your intention for being together; open up channels of communication; foster a mutual trust; transform relationship tensions; and bring about the highest good for both partners.

A Relationship Passion Map is a new way to build and sustain a healthy and loving relationship. Drawing from the wisdom of the Passion Mapping process, it allows you to create an integrated map of the passions and strengths you both bring to the partnership. The sessions also allow you to focus on creating a shared vision and aspiration to move towards your relationship.

This program consists of 3-4 sessions of about two hours each. It can be face to face or on Zoom. This is followed by a telephone check-in session with your practitioner to review progress and provide support.
Each partner needs complete their own Personal Passion Map program prior to their Relationship program.

Your Practitioner

  • Inspires you into being the best you can be together
  • Acts as a gentle facilitator and guide taking you through the process
  • Is accredited and holds a professional, confidential and respectful space.

Interested in exploring the passions in your relationship? Let’s talk.

Testimonials

“Profound, moving, touching and uplifting. A perfect way to renew your love for each other.” – Jürgen Schmechel, Relationship Expert

“I can safely say that for both myself and my colleague, this process has been enlightening and invaluable and that the impact of the sessions has and will continue to endure” – Mike Read, PLD Director, Wrigley

“My partner appreciates many qualities about me that I didn’t realise. It was a wonderful exercise to strengthen our relationship” – Vanessa Hillier, Financial Adviser

“The Relationship Passion Map program clarified and prioritised what’s important for us in our relationship” – Martin Brennan, Consultant

Inspiring new worlds of passion

Adelaide Facilitator – Ally Thomas

More information: http://www.passionmaps.com

What do you get?

Personal Love Passion and Purpose Coaching Sessions:
4 x 2 hour sessions, includes Workbook, home-play exercises, your own Passion Map, find your Life Purpose to take away. Weekly or fortnightly sessions one on one or Zoom

Clarify your passions and values, find your Highest Purpose, tune into your passions and have a powerful image to integrate into your life to help you live your authentic life and love your self more.

Relationship Passion Love and Intimacy Coaching Sessions for Couples:
5 x 2 hour sessions (4 sessions each and one together) – Enjoy creating your own individual Passion Map and a combined relationship Passion Map.

Call Ally or book for a Clarity session. Your initial 30 minutes pre-consultation is free – by phone or online.

Pricing

Introduction to Passion Map Playshop – 2 hours $50 in Unley – dates to be advised

Personal Passion Map – Love Passion Purpose

A powerful coaching, meditative and embodied process that takes 4 sessions of approximately 2 hours each – 1 on 1 in person or on Zoom. Weekly or fortnightly. Includes Workbook, Passion Kit, Life Purpose

Investment in yourself – $850 ($250 deposit and 3 x $200 per session) or $800 paid in full in advance.

Relationship Passion Map – Love Passion Purpose for Couples

For couples, lovers, friends – to increase your intimacy, deepen your passion and strengthen your relationship

5 x 2 hour sessions (4 sessions each and one together) personally or on Zoom. Weekly or fortnightly – 2 separate, one combined session. Includes – Personal Passion Map for each person with Workbook &  Passion Kit

Investment $1500 ($550 deposit and $250 x 4 per session) or $1500 paid in full in advance.

Passionate Sacred Feminine Playshop

Playshops held at Unley or Flaxley. For women only. More details HERE.

Business Partnership Passion Mapping – Passion and Purpose for 2 people

For business partnerships, and shared projects

5 x 2 hour sessions – personally or on Zoom. Weekly or fortnightly. Includes – Personal Passion Map for each with Workbook, Passion Kit

Tax Deductible Investment: $2200 ($600 deposit and 4 x $400 per session – total $2200) or $1999 paid in full in advance.

Ongoing Love Passion & Purpose Coaching

Weekly monthly or fortnightly sessions – in person or on Zoom

To continue integrating your Passion Map into your life; realising your dreams and goals and refining your passion map, by Zoom or personally. Timing to suit both you and me.

  • 3 months x 1 hour monthly coaching sessions – 3 hours = total $350 or $300 if paid in full in advance
  • 3 months x 1 hour fortnightly coaching sessions – 6 hours = total $550 or $500 if paid in full in advance
  • 3 months x 1 hour weekly coaching sessions – 12 hours = total $1300 or $1200 if paid in full in advance
  • 6 monthly programs and 2 hourly session – POA

How and When?

Available from 1 June 2020. Contact Ally Thomas on 0419 038 310 to make your booking now

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Book Launch Schedule

What men and women really want bookWhat Men and Women Really Want Book launch 2017

What Men and Women Really Want – 6 Tantric Love Secrets” is now available for those of you who want to read the print copy of my ebook will be happy to know that I have revised it and the print version will be available in February 2017. As a result of my years of training, exploration and lessons here it is!

I will be holding Book Launch Events as I travel to all major cities in Australia – Perth Adelaide Sydney Newcastle Hobart Brisbane Darwin Melbourne and Canberra over the first six months of 2017.

Who is “What Men and Women Really Want” for?

This book is not only about what every man wants to know. But also what every woman wants her man to know as well!

♦  For men, women and couples who want to love, to connect, and to feel a deeper aspect of their love.

♦  For singles who want to tune into themselves and love themselves more.

♦  For couples to reconnect and reignite their sex life and love connection and take it to a higher, more energetic space. To connect mind body and spirit and unite as one.

What you’ll find inside – What Every Woman and Man Wants!

♦   How to relax and pleasure your lover with sensual massage techniques – and have him/her begging you for more…

♦  How to connect at a deeper level with each other and pleasure your lover more – the secret that every passionate couple wants to know

♦  How to transform intimacy with your lover to another level with these six tantric secrets

My experience of Tantra is that is unites the physical and the spiritual, joining awareness with breath, to balance and harmonise my masculine and feminine energies and enable me to experience unlimited joy and bliss.

Come to a BOOK LAUNCH of “WHAT MEN AND WOMEN REALLY WANT” in your city

In 2017 I’ll be travelling around Australia talking about my book “What Men and Women Really Want – 6 Tantric Love Secrets”. At each event I’ll share with you one of my 6 Tantric secrets, chatting to you about Tantra and my Tantra journey along everything in between.

I’ll answer your questions about Tantra as well as sign your copy of ‘What Men and Women Really Want’. I’m happy to take photos and bookings too.

Limited numbers, so purchase your tickets now! Can’t wait to meet you there!

BE A VIP GUEST OF MINE

VIP Pre-sale Pack includes a signed copy of the printed book, a bottle of Sacred Grove Scented Emu Bush Massage and Healing Oil, 10% discount voucher, USB of meditations and visualisations by Ally (worth $85) for $50.

Order as a VIP and arrive earlier to meet me personally and receive personally signed copy of the book. Limited numbers, so purchase your tickets now! Can’t wait to meet you there!
Click HERE to purchase your VIP ticket and pack now.

BOOK YOUR TICKETS BELOW

Get your Book Launch Ticket for $10 (which will be deducted from the price of the book) BELOW. All events run from 7pm to 9pm. VIPs from 6pm.
Payment is available by Eftpos, Direct Debit/Bank Transfer, Visa, MasterCard and Paypal.  

City Schedule

PERTH – Tuesday 14 FEBRUARY 2017 – book here
ADELAIDE – Wednesday 22 FEBRUARY 2017 – book here
SYDNEY – 24 MARCH book here
CANBERRA 29 MARCH book here
HOBART – Friday 21 APRIL Hobart – bookings
NEWCASTLE – Wednesday 10 MAY – book here
BRISBANE – Tuesday 23 MAY – book here
MELBOURNE – Tuesday 5 JUNE – book here
DARWIN – 28 JUNE – book here

How can I buy a print copy of “What Men and Women Really Want”?

Print versions of “What Men and Women Really Want” will be available for $20 in February 2017. To pre-order your copy and a copy for your friend click HERE.

VIP Book Launch Package includes VIP Entrance to the Book Launch, a signed copy of the printed book, a bottle of Sacred Grove Scented Emu Bush Massage and Healing Oil, 10% discount voucher, USB of meditations and visualisations by Ally (worth $85) for $50. Pick up your VIP Pack at the Book Launch in your nearest city. Limited numbers. Click HERE to purchase your VIP ticket and pack now.

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