self love

Ally A Heroine’s Journey

Ally’s heroine’s journey

Past

Once upon a recent time a sad, unconfident girl called Ally wanted to change her dreary, boring, hard life. Her dream was to become a successful SPEAKER and present talks and facilitate workshops to groups of people to share her love and wisdom all over the world.

But she felt that she was limited by being a MOTHER who had to give up her child at birth. Her deep sadness and guilt made her feel that she want good enough to be an authority and a leader. So she went to lots of personal development classes, courses and seminars over many years.

She worried that she would get SICK and she did, but she always recovered and went on to learn and grow and progress. Allie learned how to stay positive and change her transparent and limiting beliefs into powerful affirmations and create good experiences.

There were many times when she felt OVERWHELMED about life – all the things she had on her TO DO list. She grew despondent and gave up many times, only to lose herself and then find herself again, as she explored her shadow self and learnt how to balance and control her yin and yang energies.

Allie also learnt how to listen how to ask better questions. And how to set her BOUNDARIES and say no, therefore making better choices, and her life improved. She realised that she could transcend her sadness, and found her confidence, which gave her the money and FREEDOM to do what she loved.

When she realised that here core is LOVE and that Love is a powerful healer, she decided to love herself more. The more love energy she used, the more is available.

Future

So now Ally helps to heal men women and couples with her touch and the spiritual healing energy that comes through her. Using Tantra, massage, NLP and other techniques she’s learnt over the years, and tuning in to the wisdom of her intuition, she created her JOY business (which involves doing one-one sessions in Tantra massage, sexual coaching, relationship counselling, couples sessions, group Playshops and customised Tantra Training for men women and couples). She now lives her passion and purpose, which is to give and receive love and teach others how to love themselves and have more pleasure.

written in Bali in 2017

How to love your self

How do you LOVE your self? a Valentines Day special post

How do you love your self? If you already do, how do you love yourself more? Here are some ideas to enhance your love, or to refine it.

love your self with tantra massage by Ally
LOVE
  1. Say “I love you” to yourself in the mirror. Say “I am beautiful” or “I am handsome” until you mean it, until you can FEEL you are beautiful and handsome. If you don’t know how it feels, imagine how someone you think is beautiful and handsome would feel, and feel that way, then make the feeling stronger.
  2. Think of a body part you are ashamed of, or a scar, or something about yourself you feel negative about. Imagine how you would feel about someone else who has that thing. Feel the compassion you would feel for that person and transfer it to feeling the same amount of compassion for your self.
  3. Be grateful for the body you have. It’s not perfect. It may not work how it used to several years ago, or it may work differently. I have a friend who is paralysed from the neck downwards, and when I think of him, I am very grateful for my freedom of movement, being able to walk, dance, scratch myself, and enjoy life fully
  4. Feel the fear and do it anyway.
  5. Compassion exercise from Avatar:
  6. Spoil yourself like a seven year old child. What did you love doing when you were a kid? What did you want to do that you could then, that you can now? Treat yourself to an icecream, go for a walk in the park, go fishing, read a book out loud.
  7. Change your self talk. When you look in the mirror, be aware and listen to what you say to your self. Listen to yourself and if you hear the negative words in your head, shut your eyes. Think of the opposite – love your breasts, chest, body shape, scars and bruises, lumps and bumps, hairiness or lack of hair. Now change your judgement from “too big/small” to “the right size and shape for me”. My girlfriend used to say “I may have small breasts, but I have racy nipples!” Then open your eyes and see your beauty, your possibilities, your radiance reflected there.

Song

I love myself the way I am,

There’s nothing I need to change.

I’ll always be the perfect me,

There’s nothing to rearrange.

I’m beautiful and capable,

Of being the best me I can,

And I love myself just the way I am.