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Sex Secret – Connection

February 13, 2017

Sex Secret Connection

Both men and women tell me they haven’t had sex or made love with their spouse for 6 moths, 12 months, 2 years, 5 years…

It is so sad that people who love each other and have a wonderful sex life and then something happens and it’s gone. Something kills the desire and after awhile you could feel that you don’t “need” sex or love making.

How did you reconnect and reignite that desire for your lover?

Go back to the beginning of relationship and talk about it. What attracted you to your partner when you first met them? Tell them. And ask them what first attracted them to you? Talk about your first date, your first kiss, your first lovemaking. What was special?
Why you still together?
Rekindle that spark of love that grew into a fire and kept burning for so many years. If your children are grown up and left you need to rediscover your partner.
Everyone goes through changes. In teenagers, testosterone and progesterone hormones are strong stimulants, however as we mature they change many peoples’ desires. And in some couples one person, usually the man, maintains a strong need for release from sexual tension.
Women’s desires often decrease after childbirth and child care because they put so much time into mothering and nurturing.
So how to rekindle the passion and connect with your lover?
Plan a date night, flirt with each other by text or phone or love notes (under her pillow, in his pocket). Give surprise gifts for no occasion.
Plan a “dirty weekend” away. Ask her what would she need to happen to make love? Ask him to give you a gentle massage. Tell him how you really like to be touched, kissed, licked and stroked. Tell her and show her how you like to be stroked on your lingam – fast or slow, gentle or firm, the special sensitive spots…
Have some lessons in cunnilingus or Tantra or massage together.
Role play or dress up in a costume for your lover. Imagine you are Casanova or Marilyn Munro; Cleopatra and Antony; or porn stars – John Holmes, Debbie Does Dallas! What do you imagine they would say or do to their beloved? Talk about it with your lover. Ask if they want to do it. Ask if it turns them on more to talk about it, look at it, plan it, or to do it?!
Give your genitals names. Then they can have a discussion. Using this analogy of a different identity can help you express things that you wouldn’t normally say. Ask her what she wants. Ask him what are you would like to do. The answers often surprise you!

When you reconnect and reawaken that desire for your beloved – you do it deliberately. And when you do you say to each other “I’d forgotten how good it was to have sex and make love!”

That is the sex secret connection!

Sacred Feminine in Hobart

December 14, 2016

Sacred Feminine

I teach people about Tantra, sacred feminine and intimacy, and often get asked these questions:

What is the difference between orgasm and ejaculation? What are the differences between male and female orgasm? What are the different types of orgasm? How do I tune into my sexual energy and turn it on? How do I enhance my feminine essence? How do I have an orgasm?

We don’t learn about this at school, often because we don’t know the questions to ask. And often it’s because we don’t know WHO to ask! Parents, Teachers, peers or elders? Who knows? Safety, confidentiality and trust are important in this personal, intimate subject.

As an Intimacy Coach and Tantra Massage Teacher and Trainer, I provide one-one sessions, couples sessions, Playshops, massage sessions, coaching and counselling programs and training for men women and couples in Tantra to help answer many of your questions.

Playshops

CALLING ALL WOMEN!

Explore your Sacred Feminine Energy in two Sensuality Love and Intimacy Evenings in Hobart in 2017. Sacred Feminine Evenings are to educate and empower women about sacred sexuality, and help heal shame, guilt and fear with connection, communion and love.

Do you want to tune into your Sacred Feminine Energy?
Empower your spiritual energy? Open your heart to love and radiance
To learn more about spiritual sacred energy and how to enhance it more?
Use Tantric breathwork for grounding, moving your energy, unblock your chakras to heal and energize
Connect with your spiritual guides and angels
Reconnect magic, passion, feel deep love and powerful female energy
Use meditation, dance, movement and Tantric techniques to tune into your unique divine energy

Includes a healthy light supper, meditation, dance, movement and fun easy spiritual exercises and techniques

Sacred Feminine Playshops 2017 dates

Tuesday 10 January in Hobart, Saturday 22 April – Bruny Island.
from 7pm-9pm – #1 Introduction to Tantra. $25 each. Bring a friend. Book HERE
Thursday 12 January in Hobart, Thursday 27 April in Hobart
from 7-10pm – #2 Spiritual Energy Orgasm or Firebreath Orgasm. Learn how to have an orgasm without touching yourself. For the brave and sensual woman. Maximum 10 ladies. Wear comfy trousers. $30 each. Book HERE
January special – one evening $25 or $30 each, 2 evenings $50.

Tantra massage and Tantra Sessions for Women

Women’s Sensual Massage, Yoni massage, Tantra Pleasure Experience and Tantra Massage are more about sensuality and tuning into your feminine essence.

Tantra Pleasure Experience is like a massage – very gentle, very relaxing and also energising, with guided meditation, breathing and Tantra techniques. Women, learn how to enhance your feminine energy and how to move it around your body to relax and enjoy more pleasure. You can clear blocks from past abuse, fears, hurts and other pains that stop you from enjoying your life fully, and balance your chakras so that your energy flows smoothly.

Choose from Sensual Massage (relaxing, pampering massage), Tantra Massage (can include yoni massage), or a Chakra Balancing Massage. There is more information HERE.

ESSENCE Tantra Program for Women

The ESSENCE Tantra Program covers three sessions to explore, release and heal one relationship or sexual issue in your life. More details HERE

Tantra Training for Women

Learn more about Tantra so you can teach others about this fascinating subject. More details HERE

Book here for massages and Playshops:

Tantra Massage in Melbourne

November 5, 2016

Tantra Massage in Melbourne

Melbourne has lots of people learning or wanting to learn about Tantra and Tantra Massage. I get many enquiries from my website and phone messages from people wanting to experience Tantra, to get rid of their fears and blocks; to heal their sexual shame and hurts. They want to last longer, to have more pleasure, to pleasure their partner more, or just have a relaxing sensual massage.

I don’t teach sexual technique. You know how to do that! I can help you enhance it, extend it, create more connection easily with your partner. I can show you how to turn her on easily. How to re-ignite the spark that you had when you were teenagers, that you seem to have lost when you became parents, and now they are independent, you want to get back. Yes, that romance, that sexual connection, tuning into your feminine and masculine essence. and that beautiful love-making. It is possible.

Sex Education

I often teach people about sexuality – What is the difference between orgasm and ejaculation? What are the differences between male and female orgasm? What are the different types of orgasm? How do I tune into my sexual energy and turn it on? How do i enhance my feminine essence? How do i have an orgasm? These are all questions I have been asked. We don’t learn about this at school, often because we don’t know the questions to ask. And often it’s because we don’t know WHO to ask! Parents, Teachers peers and elders? Who knows?

Tantra Massage for Men

For Men, there is Lingam massage, Tantra Pleasure Experience and Tantra Massage. Tantra Pleasure Experience which is like a massage – very relaxing and energising. I also teach men how to control your erection, orgasm and ejaculation and how to move your sexual energy around your body for more control and pleasure. More information for men about these and Tantra Massage in Melbourne HERE.

Tantra Massage for Women

Women’s Sensual Massage, Yoni massage,Tantra Pleasure Experience and Tantra Massage are more about sensuality and tuning into your feminine essence. Tantra Pleasure Experience is like a massage – very relaxing and energising, with guided meditation, breathing and Tantra techniques. Women can learn how to enhance your feminine energy and how to move it around your body to relax and for more pleasure. There is more information about Sensual Massage, Yoni massage,Tantra Pleasure Experience and Tantra Massage in Melbourne HERE.

Tantra Massage for Couples

I also have Tantra sessions for couples. You have several choices

1. You can buy my ebook – ‘What women Really want – 6 Tantric Sex Techniques for Men and Couples” from Amazon and study it. There are lots of good ideas on how to pleasure and massage your partner. Read it in any order and study it, then come for a Couples session.

2. You could have a Tantra session by yourself to learn how to control your energy with Tantric techniques and then share with your partner

3. You can have a couples session, which is just the three of us.

One person will be pleasured and gently massaged while the other watches and learns, then you swap over. Its a full body massage, very hands-on and informative, so you can learn new ways to pleasure each other. He can learn how to control his orgasms and ejaculation and she can learn how to move her energy through her body.

Also I will give you some easy ways to connect, to create more intimacy, and also teach you both strokes to pleasure each other more. One hour and 2 hour sessions available. More information HERE.

DO IT NOW!

Book now, as I am in Melbourne only on Monday 14 and Tuesday 15 November for the last time this year of 2016.

Hobart Tantra Massage

November 4, 2016

Hobart Tantra massage

On 16-18 November 2016, for the first time, I paid a visit Hobart to teach people about Tantra and give Tantra Pleasure Experience to men women and couples. Tantra Pleasure Experience is like a massage – very relaxing and energising. I also teach men how to control your sexual energy. Women can learn how to tune into your feminine energy. Education about how to move your energy around your body for more pleasure,

As I have written about in my ebook “What Women Really Want – 6 Tantric Sex Techniques for Men and Couples” (available from Amazon.com.au), there are many benefits to using Tantra techniques. Some include:

teasing for sensuality
fun with foreplay
connecting with breath for more intimacy
being present in the moment
how to turn your lover on with sensual touch and stroking
creating rapport with your lover even when one of you doesn’t feel like it
enhancing your feeling of love with your partner spouse or lover
and more.

My Tantra sessions for couples include guided visualisations and journeys through your chakras, using breath to control your energy and body, how to pleasure a woman so she is begging you for more, a journey through your senses, how to use yabyum and other Tantric techniques.

Book for Hobart Tantra Massage

Tantra massage for Men Women and Couples is available. For more information follow the links. So book your one hour, 90 minute or 2 hour Tantra Pleasure Experience, Tantra massage, Sensual massage or Tantra session now to experience Tantra or learn more about this fascinating subject HERE while Ally is in Hobart: November 16, 17 and 18, 2016 and 9-13 January 2017.

Energy – What is it?

September 29, 2016

Energy

We hear about Tantric energy, Kundalini energy, Shakti energy, sexual energy, feminine energy, masculine energy and solar energy.

In my experience, men readily identify with their sexual energy. It is inherent with their strength, their performance and their confidence. Men love to give pleasure to women, and they also give their energy to their work, kids, and then they get tired and burnt out because they often don’t stop to receive.

Women identify more with their feminine energy – their love, nurturing and softness. However this feminine energy can be very powerful and empowering too. It is the force that gives strength to the mother who lifts the tree/car off her child to save its life. It’s the protection she gives when her child is scared, and the pain she bears in childbirth. Often it is a woman’s inner child that needs the most love and nurturing, because she is always giving her love away.

Shiva and Shakti power

Shakti or feminine power is always moving. Like water, it finds its own level. It flows in and around things, enveloping them and cleansing them. It is based in the sacral chakra – in the pelvis and hips.

Shiva or masculine power is stationery. It can be firey energy. It’s based in the solar plexus chakra. Solar = sun. Solar energy can be very powerful or very destructive.

The masculine solar fire energy can heat the feminine water energy if it’s gentle. Or it can make it boil! The feminine watery energy can put out the fire if too strong, or it can gently co-exist and make delicious soup!

Kundalini

Kundalini is the snake-like energy that lies in the base of the spine, and can travel up the spine to the head through conscious meditation.

My favourite way to do this is Osho’s Kundalini meditation, which is a four part meditation – shaking, then moving, then seated and finally lying down. Once, in the seated part of the meditation, I felt an itch in my lower back. I ignored it and it went away, then it was a twitch in the middle of my back, then it moved up to my shoulder. I finally realised it was the Kundalini snake tickling and nibbling me to tell me it was moving upwards. Once aware of this energy, I could consciously move it up from my neck to Third Eye to my crown chakra and out the top of my head in a beam of light!

Fear

Often people have stuck energy – it is stale, or it can be blocked, through fear or neglect. Conscious breathing can help you get through the blockage or the fear. It helps for you to acknowledge the fear instead of resisting it…

That fear is often a fear of the unknown. I often have people come to see me for a Tantra massage and tell me they are scared or nervous. I say – “it’s just a massage, a very relaxing and energising massage!” The fear is as if they are on the edge of a cliff and they are scared of falling down. I help them rise above it, like in a helicopter, and see that it’s just a crack and that on the other side is the thing they really want – eg pleasure, release of block, happiness, empowerment, orgasm, joy and bliss. When you can feel, see or know what that is on the other side, then it’s easier to release the limiting belief, step over that unknown, to go through that transition, and unblock the energy to flow smoothly again – to step into your power and confidence.

Tantric energy

Tantric energy rises though awareness, breath, sound and body movement. It connects masculine and feminine energy in a dance of surrender and control, weaving together in unity of mind body and spirit.

Ally
26/9/16

Learn about Tantric energy – how to control it, how to move it around your body, how to use it to create what you wish. Book HERE

energy healing — torus is a doughnut shape of energy

The Magic of Breathing

August 17, 2016

Conscious Breathing is a good skill to have. Awareness of your breathing helps you control your state of mind, release anxiety, and tune in to your body.
If you don’t breathe, you die!

Pranayama

Pranayama is a Sanskrit word meaning “breath control.” The word is composed from two Sanskrit words: prana meaning life force (noted particularly as the breath), and either yama (to restrain or control the prana, implying a set of breathing techniques where the breath is intentionally altered in order to produce specific results) or the negative form ayāma, meaning to extend or draw out (as in extension of the life force). It is a yogic discipline with origins in ancient India. (Wikipedia)

As you become aware of your breathing, you can “play” with it:

Colour your breath – imagine your breath is coloured, coming into your body through your nose, down into your lungs, circulating through your body and going out through your mouth
Count your breath – breathe in for 3 counts, hold for 3 counts, exhale for 3 counts. And vary it for longer or shorter
See your breath – imagine the rainbow colours of your chakras as you breathe in and upwards through each of them and see the colour go out of the Crown Chakra at the top of your head
Feel your breath on your lips and nose as you breathe in and out
Hear your breath – make a sound when breathing out – a sigh, a moan, om or a hum. Or repeat an affirmation (I love myself) or mantra (Om mane padme hum)
Control your breath – both holding your breath in and holding it when breathing out.

Conscious Breathing – exercise

Moving energy around your body with your breath and awareness is the most important part of Tantra and control. Take this exercise nice and slow, allowing yourself to breathe in and out a few times at each stage. Be careful not to strain. If you feel dizzy or light-headed, just breathe normally for a while.

Start by becoming aware of your breath, breathing in through your nose and out through your mouth.
Feel the gentle touch of your breath on your lips, and the tip of your nose, as you breathe in and out.
Taste the air on your tongue when you exhale through your mouth
Tune into the feeling of the inside of your nose as you breathe in – the hairs, the space, and your nostrils.
Let your breath become deeper, and begin to allow yourself to make a sound as you breath out. Vary the exhaled sound, eg ‘aah’, ‘mmm’ or ‘um’, louder or softer, sweeter or growlier!
Imagine that you are breathing in to your genitals and breathe out towards your fingers and toes.
As you inhale, feel fresh new energy coming into your body. As you exhale, imagine you are releasing old energy, thoughts and worries.
Experiment with holding your breath after you breathe in, eg inhale to a count of three, hold for three, exhale for three. As long as you keep it flowing.

Better Lover Playshops

April 28, 2016

How to be a Better Lover – for Couples, Men and Women

in Adelaide in September 2016

Learn how to be a better lover:

Asking permission and getting feedback
New levels of communication
How to connect and create intimacy
The art of kissing
How to be present for your partner
Tantalising your partner’s senses
Tips and demo on how to tease and please your lover.

These Playshops are easy, practical and experiential. Have fun learning about how to be a better lover – for yourself and your partner.

‘How to be a Better Lover’ series of 2 Playshops

Monday night – ABCs of Connection, Communication and Intimacy

Friday night – demonstrations of special strokes for men and women

6.30pm to 9.30pm

Session 1 on Monday – $50 each single or $90 couple

Session 3 (demo) on Friday – $70 each single or $120 couple

Both sessions paid in full in advance 2 weeks before – $110 single, $200 couple

* NB couple can be friends.

Book HERE

‘How to be a Better Lover’ series of 3 Playshops in September in Adelaide

Monday 5th Wednesday 7th Friday 9th September 2016

6.30pm to 9.30pm

session 1 Monday $50 each single or $90 couple

session 2 Wednesday $50 each single or $90 couple

session 3 (demo) Friday $70 each single or $120 couple

You can do one, two or three sessions/evenings

Early Bird Price: All 3 sessions paid in full in advance by 20 August – $150 single, $290 couple

* NB couple can be friends

‘How to be a Better Lover’ series of 3 Playshops in Sydney Brisbane Canberra Darwin Perth Hobart Launceston and other places by request

If you would like me to present these 2 or 3 Playshop series in your town or city, contact me by email or phone so I can organise a date and time with you.

ALSO:

Sat 18 June – Tantra Practice Playshop in Adelaide

For couples or matched friends

7-11pm

put your new skills into practise
connect with like-minded people and
learn more about Tantra.

Couple $70, Men $50, Women $30

More information HERE. Booking HERE

Shakti’s Cave – Part 3

March 10, 2016

Shakti’s Cave – Part 3

written by Shiva at Mt Arunachala in India

At the back of Shakti’s cave there is a small alcove. I did not see at first, and it is as if it has just appeared. I see that standing within it is a very beautiful, very old and ornate lingam and yoni statue, all black and shiny, glistening from the fire’s flames.

Shakti now moves slowly over to the alcove in her slow rhythmic dance, and as she starts to dance to the lingam, so I can only see her from behind. She holds it with both hands while she sways from side to side, slowly moving up and down, her hands also lovingly adoringly moving up and down its full length. She hums and sings the most beautifully enchanting sounds and songs, in praise of its power.

She adorns its base with sweet jasmine flowers that she plucks from her hair, bowing down in honour of its strength, its life-giving force.

***

From behind she is the most beautiful sight to behold. She lifts up her skirt to around her waist and slowly slowly and she still holds the lingam with both hands she seductively, sensually lowers herself down exposing her yoni’s pouting lips to me. She looks over her shoulder at me, looking straight into my eyes, making erotic sounds of pleasure and delight.

I bow down with both arms outstretched to touch the floor. Chanting the words “Om Namah Shivaya!” I honour her in all of her divinity, worshipping the male, the glory of the god.

“Om Shakti Hum”

to be continued …

Indian Tantra

March 10, 2016

Tantra comes from ancient India and ancient China. In Indian Tantra, Yoni is Sanskrit name for pussy or vagina. Lingam is Sanskrit name for cock or penis.

Indian Tantra

Shiva Lingam is a symbol found all over India and worshipped by many Indians. The yoni is the base and the lingam goes through it symbolizing the union of the masculine and feminine energies creating a oneness or wholeness.

The union of lingam and yoni is a symbol of creation – of life, spiritual and physical – energy and light! And also symbolizes enlightenment.

Shiva Lingham in India

When you look at it – there is actually a Lingham inside a Yoni – so it’s a union seen from the inside!

Shiva and Shakti

Shiva and Shakti coming together, God and Goddess in ecstasy – using the power of love and the sexual energy to consciously create. The harmony and balance of mind, body and spirit of two aware evolved beings creating music, art, children, with beauty and love.

Many modern Indians don’t know what tantra is. Just as many religious devotees who are taught about the ritual and dogma simply follow the steps of the service in a church.

Tantra is about life, movement, flow of energy from one body to another – one leading, one following. Often the pace changes – from fast to slow, inner to outer, relaxed and peaceful to turbulent and tempestuous. Like a dance of energy – once you tune in to each other – with your synchonised breathing – eventually the dance takes over and you soar into the universe – an ecstatic state, full of multi-orgasmic bliss in timeless waves. Combining taste, touch, smell and hearing you float together on waves of euphoric joy. Eventually retiring from the nectar of gods and goddess to this physical plane, to emerge relaxed, energized and satiated back where you began, on the shorts of consciousness.

A Ritual for Shiva and Shakti

Cleanse yourself and your partner – shower and wash each other with honour and respect – like you would a VIP.
Create your sacred space together – it can be a mattress on the floor or a massage table, with candles or soft lighting, relaxing music, food and drinks, incense, oils and other pleasuring items…
Sit facing each other – and spend about 5 minutes eye gazing.
- Tell the other person 5 positive things you love about them. The other listens and says thank you;
- then swap over
- Voice your Intention about what you want to dedicate this session to, or what you would like to dedicate your orgasm to;
- then swap over
Breathing together – hands on each other’s heart – circular breathing to connect.
When you feel relaxed and connected, sit in Yab yam position – the man sits on floor on a cushion with his legs crossed or apart, the woman sits on his thighs, close together holding each other in an embrace. Then begin breathing together and then start rocking together.
Decide who is the Giver, and who is the Receiver. The Receiver lies down on a mattress or massage table.
One person strokes/pleasures the other – asking what pressure to stroke.
Then swap – the other person strokes/pleasures the other – asking what pressure to stroke.
Love making if you both wish.
Sit in yab yam, hands on each others heart and thank each other.
Close the session with a hug or Namaste.
Un-create your sacred space.

Or you can book your own experience of sacred Indian Tantra massage with Ally

Indian Tantra Shiva Shakti dancing — Indian Tantra – Shiva Shakti dancing

Survey 2016 My Tantra Massage

February 14, 2016

2016 My Tantra Massage fans Quick reSurvey

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