Love, Eroticism & Relationship

Jade of the Green Thumb

He was called Jade. He loved everything green and growing. His favourite form when working in any garden was to be naked. So, his clients called him “The Naked Gardener”.

He was recommended to her by a female friend. She said he was available only to help women with their gardening needs. And he was happy for them to watch him work in their garden as they would see his gorgeous muscular tanned body. The muscles on his shoulders and arms moved deliciously as he trimmed the trees or pulled out weeds or planted new baby plants in the sunshine, as the women fantasized about him.

He preferred to plant by the moon’s phases – generally that was: leafy plants, flowers and fruits in the first quarter after new moon. Fruiting annuals for abundant seed are best sown in the second quarter of the moon. As the moon’s light decreases, root vegetables and crops, berries, vines and bulbs can best be planted in the third quarter of the moon. Then he sweet-talked them to grow and harvest abundantly. And of course he had to come and check their progress as often as their owners wanted.

Jade cooling off in the Garden

One beautiful sunny summer’s day, he arrived dressed in green shorts and black tank top which showed off his sexy body, Jade asked her “What do you want me to do in your garden today?”. Standing there in her mini skirt and low-cut blouse, she replied “I would like to have a picnic today – with you! I’ve watched you work in my garden for weeks now, and I want to treat you and reward you.”

Jade said “Only if I can feed you and then feast on you too. For I too have watched you and I desire to make passionate love to you!”

HER BEGINNING

So they spread out a blanket on the soft grass underneath the trees in the shade. She bought out food and wine she had prepared. Then she said “I’m going to blindfold you so you can REALLY appreciate this food, without distraction.”

The birds and bees made music around them that seemed louder and more romantic as she tied a satin blindfold over his eyes. It felt soft and silky on his face. Then she lay him down and he surrendered to her pleasure. First, she teased his mouth with a salty taste. A moment later he could smell his favourite lavender bush fragrance. Then she gently rang a tiny bell beside his right ear, and blew a kiss inside it.

Then she stroked something soft up his legs and down is arms. His body tingled with the sensation.

The next exquisite sensation was her soft lips kissing his, and releasing a wet cascade of bubbling wine into his mouth. He swallowed and lapped up her kisses, passionately returning them with all the love in his heart.

Feeling her deliciously warm body lie on top of his, and his arms gently encircled her, holding their hearts together as one. Jade stroked her hair softly, running his hands and fingernails gently all over her back. She moaned and wriggled, her hot yoni stimulating him more and more. He thought his rock-hard lingam would burst through his thin shorts!

HIS TURN

Rolling over so that he was on top, he said “My turn to partake” and he transferred the blindfold do her eyes so she could enjoy the unknown spontaneous pleasures of the Garden of Jade’s Delight as delivered by him.

First, Jade drank some water and sprinkled it on her tummy, slowly licking between her breasts and nuzzling her neck with sweet kisses, at which she moaned and whimpered with delight.

Then blowing gently in her ear, and whispered “I love you” and “I want you” and “I need you”, then cheekily licked insider her ear, dissolving her into laughter and giggles.

Next, he crushed some sweet mint and basil leaves which he had freshly plucked from the garden and put it under her nose. She breathed deeply of the delicious bouquet. “Mmmmmm…” she moaned

He bit into a strawberry and then kissed her, pushing the tidbit into her mouth with his tongue. As she enjoyed its juiciness he slowly moved down to lick and suck her turgid nipples, as she moaned and the juice overflowed and dripped from her lips.

His tongue lapped a winding path down her torso to her belly button and nibbled around her tummy, finally brushing her tiny landing strip of pubic hair.

He stopped, and put his hand on her Venus mound, feeling with his palm the juiciness seeping through her lips. “Is it OK to explore your sacred garden?” he asked her permission.

“Oh yes, yes, yes!” she cried with delight, so he gently stroked her inner thighs, running his finger nails across her hot flesh. After that he carefully took off her skimpy G-string, explored her groin – softly stroking the velvet skin with his fingertips, moving inwards to her outer labia, her inner labia. She thought he would never get to her juiciness but she was loving his teasing. Then he finally circled her clit with his tongue, caressing its engorged shaft, licking and flicking her to one orgasm after another.

Her whole body was tingling from his sensual touch and the sunlight dappled through the jade leaves of the tree.

Finally he said breathlessly “OK to enter your sacred garden now?”

She opened her legs in anticipation of his first penetration – “This is always one of my favourite parts of love making,” she purred, “With pleasure, Jade”

He teased her with the tip of his strong hard erection, touching her introitus (opening of her vagina), then slowly, slowly, inch by inch, entered her juicy hot yoni, filling it with his big, hot masculinity.

As it slid smoothly in and out, it felt like silk and satin and the exquisite pleasure of connecting with her cervix or G spot, she didn’t know which, and didn’t care either… She was floating on waves of pleasure, which radiated warmly from her yoni and his lingam and spread through her whole body and out far beyond. It felt like she was the whole yoni-verse! Nothing else existed except this euphoric pleasure of his lips and hers joining in a circle, and the tantric joining of their energy into a sphere of oneness and delight.

He varied his strokes – sometimes faster and sometimes slower, as he rode the waves of energy, controlling his desire with ease of long practice, so that their love making continued for many long blissful hours.

Jade with straw hat in the Garden

Punctuated by morsels of food and shared mouthfuls of wine or water, they gave and received their love until the sun set on that first of many delicious days exploring their Gardens.

She loved sharing her garden with the Naked Gardener.

Woman’s Pain

MTM blog March 2023

Womans Pain - pink clit
pink c l i t

Many clients and friends have come to me or asked for help about lack of interest or waning interest in making love and having sex. Either personally or for their partner. For example:

  • I am not sexually attracted to my partner now, and I used to be.
  • I don’t want to have sex with him.
  • Now that we’ve had kids, I’m not interested in sex.
  • It hurts to have sexual intercourse.
  • I feel insecure and unconfident about my sexual skills.
  • I’ve lost my libido and I don’t know where to find it!
  • It’s uncomfortable to make love.
  • I am not happy with my body image, size, shape etc.
  • My wife lost interest in sex when we had children, but I still need sexual release. (men
  • I have never had an orgasm and I want to have one (women.

I believe a lot of these issues start from a woman or a man’s first sexual experience. A woman’s pain is often a very deep wound.

Girls and romance

Many movies are romantic with kissing and tenderness and girls and teenagers are wooed with these ideas – where male lovers are romantic and gentle and treat women with love and respect and ask for consent.  They believe that these movies are real.

Boys and porn

Boys and men watch or read porn, where all women are wet, horny, ready and willing to do any act that a man can ask for. And men are always large, hard and able to have sex for hours and hours. They get the idea that these movies are real

Sex Ed

Most sexual education does not prepare women or men for their first sexual encounter. A teenage male does not look at photos of yonis and clitoris* (see photo above), to know that the sizes and shapes are different. He often does not know that a woman’s arousal takes a lot longer than his. He doesn’t know about women’s sensitive spots and erogenous zones, where to find them and how to stimulate them. And that women are different and have different reactions on different days and times. They often desire a slow, sensual lingering body stroking and teasing sensations. Sometimes they want it hot hard and fast!

Hymen

Teenage females (and males) are often not told about the hymen. The hymen is that little thin piece of skin which covers the external opening of the yoni. It will be broken the first time a woman has intercourse, which often results in bleeding and is always painful, physically and emotionally.

Even the word hymen, which is Latin, is the same in many languages and does not seem to be feminized in any way.

Virgins

So, for her first time, she is expecting a loving romantic gentle uplifting experience, and her fantasies are shattered by pain and blood. He is expecting an excited, wet easy and quick experience (just like masturbation) and as a result he can get performance anxiety!

Neither one knows what they are doing, and each is extremely disappointed.

Emotional trauma, shame and guilt, can result, especially if adolescents are not educated about these things. There is often emotional scarring and sex can often be associated with pain and trauma for the rest of her life.

So the next time, she is tense and fearful of pain, so she doesn’t relax. He is tentative and unsure, not wanting to hurt her either.

The woman cannot relax enough to enjoy making love with her male partner and sees it as an onerous duty.

Alternatives

Open communication and education is the key. Her mother, older sibling or peers can sometimes be helpful here. Books and the internet can be helpful or misleading information sources.

Conversely, if your first sexual experience is planned, consensual, and deliberately, gently and lovingly experienced, you can be more relaxed and open to orgasms.

I have included a photo of the whole clitoris*, as it is only the sensitive tip that is visible outside a woman’s body. Yes, it does look similar to external masculine genitals. The invisible bulbs are shown here as engorged when a woman is fully aroused. Being under a woman’s skin makes it difficult for both her and her partner to know what is going on. Verbal consent and communication is paramount for your mutual satisfaction and pleasure.

Other cultures

In some cultures, an older relative teaches the young person of the same or other gender. For example, an uncle teaches a young woman about sexuality and gender differences or an auntie or close female friend teaches the young man. Sometimes these liaisons (organized and condoned by parents) include the first penetration as well.

Sacred initiation ceremonies at puberty used to include instruction about sexual and spiritual matters by priests and priestesses or elders. These have been lost in modern times.

Orgasms

In life and sex men tend to focus on performance – their own or their partners. When they can let go of the big peak ejaculation, learn how to control their own desires and focus on creating the woman’s pleasure first, then they can have prolonged enjoyment. This makes more pleasure for both.

When women can learn to tune into their own feminine energy and learn how to have their own orgasms, without relying on their male partner, and also how to pleasure them, they can relax more easily and connect deeper.

There are many different types of orgasms – energy orgasms, nipple orgasms, clitoral orgasms, G spot orgasms. Even food orgasms!

Learning to Love Yourself

The key to overcoming these issues is learning how to love yourself, tuning in to your own sexual energy, tuning in to your body’s pleasure, and getting “out of your head”! This can take years or moments, therapy or discussion, confession or disclosure, everyone has a different path.

I can teach you body awareness with Tantric practices using breathwork and massage.

Interesting Fact: Many other mammals also have hymens for example, chimpanzees, horses, llamas, elephants, and whales. (Wikipedia)

If you have any questions or want to learn how to control your orgasm and ejaculation, pleasure your partner more, or have multiple orgasms,

ask Ally.

Couples Playshop November 2022

Building a Deeper Connection for Couples and Lovers

Couples Playshop November 2022

Do you want to Empower your relationship?

  • How important is good connection and great communication and how much more pleasure do you want in your relationship?
  • Would you like to experience a more loving, intimate relationship with yourself and your partner?
  • Want to discover how much deeper, more blissfully and passionately you can go with your lover?

Then come along to this weekend to open your heart to new possibilities, empower your relationship and transform your love life!

I am organising a Couples weekend retreat in a private live-in venue south of Adelaide 

Friday 11, Saturday 12 and Sunday 13 November 2022.

To be included, save the date and book your spot NOW as places are limited to a maximum of 5 couples.

The Couples Playshop November 2022 retreat is called “Building a Deeper Connection for Couples and Lovers”.

How you benefit from Couples Playshop November 2022

  • 2 and a half days of Playshop to build a deeper connection with your partner (spouse, lover or close friend)
  • Comfortable quirky rustic accommodation (2 rooms and 3 caravan or camping sites available)
  • 2 healthy lunches Saturday and Sunday and dinner on Saturday night all included
  • Healthy morning and afternoon teas
  • Enjoy sharing and connecting with like-minded couples in a safe environment
  • Learn, practice and experience giving and receiving sensual massage with your partner to unite your body and soul and connect at a deeper level
  • Practice how to communicate your fears, desires, wants, needs and negotiate, as a result that each person is honoured and loved.
  • Easily set boundaries and make agreements for your mutual satisfaction in love and life

BOOK NOW to be involved in the transforming experience and join us, engagingly.

Investment

Early Bird Couple before 10/10/22 $700 paid in full (accommodation and most meals included)
Couples price paid in full after 11/10/22 $845  (accommodation and most meals included)
Couple Deposit $200 to hold your place (balance due by 30/10/22)

Program

  • Friday 6pm to 10pm
  • Saturday 10am to 10pm
  • Sunday 10am to 4pm.

More details and tickets HERE

or contact Ally

Ally

Ally Tantra with feather preparing for Couples Playshop November 2022
Ally and feather

Change

Change

“If you don’t like something, change it.
If you can’t change it,
change the way you think about it.”
Mary Engelbreit

I am My Lover - cover for Change
Change your Lover by loving your self more
  • How is your life?
  • Are you happy?
  • Are you doing what you are passionate about?
  • How do you pleasure your self?
  • Do you love your true love?

Change your Happiness

Happiness is a state of mind. Yes it can be inspired by a person, or word, an action, a sight. It’s still an internal thing, a personal thing.

If you’re feeling sad or unhappy, just feel that. Really FEEL that feeling. For just one minute. Then change your feelings by thinking of something or someone who makes you feel very happy and joyful. For example, sadness of the loss of a friend or family member can be felt briefly and then changed into a happy memory of that person or a shared moment with them.

Passion

Are you passionate about your job or vocation? If you are, that’s great! Celebrate!
If not, find a creative hobby that you love: for example, art or dancing or photography. It can give you something to look forward to at the end of the day, once a week or on the weekend. And it’s a good way to meet people and make new friends too.

True Love

To search for your true love, start with yourself. How would you like to be loved?
What would you like someone to say to you to express their love? Is it words of love or compliments? Flirting cheeky banter? Dirty talk? Sweet romantic poetry? How do you talk to your self? Change your self-talk to sexy words of affection.
Would you like to receive gifts? For example, flowers or cards or kisses? Buy your self some flowers and say enigmatically to your friends “they’re from a secret admirer!”

New Relationships

Are you scared of meeting a new person or starting a new relationship because your last partner hurt you? That new friend or lover is probably just as frightened. So make lots of new friends and have fun with them.

Remember to change your belief to “My next partner will be even better than the last one” and “Our relationship will be better than my wildest dreams”.

Eventually you can change your expectations, thoughts and beliefs to make these things happen.

Of course there will be some ups and downs, some self growth and some fun experiences on the way.

Self Pleasure

How do you pleasure yourself? Here are some examples:

Some people get pleasure from the feeling of wearing special new clothes, and the compliments of their friends.

The tingly bubbly taste of champagne, or a rich red wine; a creamy cold icecream on a steamy hot day; or a spicy hot chili dish can turn you on, one way or another.

Smelling his after-shave or her perfume or a spicy incense or lavender candle can get other people going.

How do you pamper yourself when you want to feel special? 

You can read a special sexy romantic book, look at sexy pictures, imagine your favourite lover (real or not) making love to you.

Shut your eyes and try caressing yourself with a feather, or a tissue. Gently stroke sweet-smelling body cream or oil on your legs, your arms, your whole body.

Whisper sweet words of love that you always wanted your lover to say to you…

Run your fingers through your hair slowly and sensuously.

(I have to go now, and continue this myself…)

Change the way you think and feel to change your life to one you love.

Ally AcuTouch Change 2022
Change with Ally, your Transformational Relationship Consultant

 

When you want to transform or change your life, your love life, your sex life, contact Ally to talk about your first steps…

Vision

My Meditation Vision

Awakening to see the sun rising between two large hills.

The sun’s bright rays peeking across the top of the U shaped valley, illuminating the waterfall over steep rocky edges. Centered below was a huge cave, dark and moist and deep.

The way in was through that cave. It was a known entrance. Something stopped me from going in. A sixth sense. And I made the decision to draw away.

Backwards. So far back, I could only see a very small nugget of black in this soft velvet darkness, then the light enveloped me without feeling the change or sensing it coming.

I surrendered to the light and fullness and completion and completeness of all.

Retracing the journey to source from separation to fullness and completeness.

We leave this planet in a tunnel of light, towards the light. We arrive through a tunnel of darkness, searching for the light.

Day and night remind us of our connection to source.

Spiritual enlightenment reconnects us of our union.

Sexual bliss and euphoria reminds us of our wholeness.

Sleep and dreams take us there. Tantra can take us there

Stars at night remind us of portals into multi dimensions.

Ally 2021

sun rising with light
Photo by Sachin C Nair on Pexels.com

Personal & Relationship Passion Maps

Love Passion and Purpose Coaching with Ally

What is a Passion Map?

The expression of our genuine passions can have a vitalising and inspiring influence on those around us. Finding similar passions with others opens up possibilities for whole new experiences and connections. Passion is not a given, it needs to be cultivated and nurtured.

Passions are … the deep inner drives, to reach for what we love. Our passions awaken and energise our relationships.

Would you like to be able to:

  • Learn more about yourself and love yourself more?
  • Deep dive into your soul?
  • To find your highest purpose in life?
  • Easily find your star qualities?
  • Create your personal Passion Map as a reflection of yourself?
  • Find your life purpose?
  • Refine your passions?
  • Create a vision for your optimal future success?
  • Set some goals using spiritual soul centred gentle guided meditation?

Passion in Relationship 

Do you and your partner want to :

  • Discover what passions you share in your relationship?
  • Create a powerful shared vision & potential for being together?
  • Develop focus on what gives your relationship meaning and purpose?
  • Generate energy, excitement, creativity and courage in your relationship?
  • Experience the essence of who you are together?
  • Connect your relationship with your partner at a deeper level?

Connecting with our own and shared passion is an important key for thriving and deeply rewarding relationships. It fosters an important bond with our partner based on our shared passions and visions for our life and relationship. Shared passion helps the relationships in our life strengthen and grow.

Having passion in a relationship is essential for keeping it alive, healthy, growing, intimate and connected. Passion in relationship can be an intense feeling, enthusiasm, energy, affection, love and desire. Passion means being authentic with ourselves and our partners, being both powerful and vulnerable, sharing our joys, being open, having a willingness to go deeper and taking responsibility to create what we love in our lives.

Perhaps it is time to revisit the possibility of empassioning your own relationship?

What you can expect in a Passion Map with Ally

A Relationship Passion Map is a powerful way to take your partnership a step, or leap, further – to deepen your understanding of each other and the way you create relationship: to clarify your intention for being together; open up channels of communication; foster a mutual trust; transform relationship tensions; and bring about the highest good for both partners.

A Relationship Passion Map is a new way to build and sustain a healthy and loving relationship. Drawing from the wisdom of the Passion Mapping process, it allows you to create an integrated map of the passions and strengths you both bring to the partnership. The sessions also allow you to focus on creating a shared vision and aspiration to move towards your relationship.

This program consists of 3-4 sessions of about two hours each. It can be face to face or on Zoom. This is followed by a telephone check-in session with your practitioner to review progress and provide support.
Each partner needs complete their own Personal Passion Map program prior to their Relationship program.

Your Practitioner

  • Inspires you into being the best you can be together
  • Acts as a gentle facilitator and guide taking you through the process
  • Is accredited and holds a professional, confidential and respectful space.

Interested in exploring the passions in your relationship? Let’s talk.

Testimonials

“Profound, moving, touching and uplifting. A perfect way to renew your love for each other.” – Jürgen Schmechel, Relationship Expert

“I can safely say that for both myself and my colleague, this process has been enlightening and invaluable and that the impact of the sessions has and will continue to endure” – Mike Read, PLD Director, Wrigley

“My partner appreciates many qualities about me that I didn’t realise. It was a wonderful exercise to strengthen our relationship” – Vanessa Hillier, Financial Adviser

“The Relationship Passion Map program clarified and prioritised what’s important for us in our relationship” – Martin Brennan, Consultant

Inspiring new worlds of passion

Adelaide Facilitator – Ally Thomas

More information: http://www.passionmaps.com

What do you get?

Personal Love Passion and Purpose Coaching Sessions:
4 x 2 hour sessions, includes Workbook, home-play exercises, your own Passion Map, find your Life Purpose to take away. Weekly or fortnightly sessions one on one or Zoom

Clarify your passions and values, find your Highest Purpose, tune into your passions and have a powerful image to integrate into your life to help you live your authentic life and love your self more.

Relationship Passion Love and Intimacy Coaching Sessions for Couples:
5 x 2 hour sessions (4 sessions each and one together) – Enjoy creating your own individual Passion Map and a combined relationship Passion Map.

Call Ally or book for a Clarity session. Your initial 30 minutes pre-consultation is free – by phone or online.

Pricing

Introduction to Passion Map Playshop – 2 hours $50 in Unley – dates to be advised

Personal Passion Map – Love Passion Purpose

A powerful coaching, meditative and embodied process that takes 4 sessions of approximately 2 hours each – 1 on 1 in person or on Zoom. Weekly or fortnightly. Includes Workbook, Passion Kit, Life Purpose

Investment in yourself – $850 ($250 deposit and 3 x $200 per session) or $800 paid in full in advance.

Relationship Passion Map – Love Passion Purpose for Couples

For couples, lovers, friends – to increase your intimacy, deepen your passion and strengthen your relationship

5 x 2 hour sessions (4 sessions each and one together) personally or on Zoom. Weekly or fortnightly – 2 separate, one combined session. Includes – Personal Passion Map for each person with Workbook &  Passion Kit

Investment $1500 ($550 deposit and $250 x 4 per session) or $1500 paid in full in advance.

Passionate Sacred Feminine Playshop

Playshops held at Unley or Flaxley. For women only. More details HERE.

Business Partnership Passion Mapping – Passion and Purpose for 2 people

For business partnerships, and shared projects

5 x 2 hour sessions – personally or on Zoom. Weekly or fortnightly. Includes – Personal Passion Map for each with Workbook, Passion Kit

Tax Deductible Investment: $2200 ($600 deposit and 4 x $400 per session – total $2200) or $1999 paid in full in advance.

Ongoing Love Passion & Purpose Coaching

Weekly monthly or fortnightly sessions – in person or on Zoom

To continue integrating your Passion Map into your life; realising your dreams and goals and refining your passion map, by Zoom or personally. Timing to suit both you and me.

  • 3 months x 1 hour monthly coaching sessions – 3 hours = total $350 or $300 if paid in full in advance
  • 3 months x 1 hour fortnightly coaching sessions – 6 hours = total $550 or $500 if paid in full in advance
  • 3 months x 1 hour weekly coaching sessions – 12 hours = total $1300 or $1200 if paid in full in advance
  • 6 monthly programs and 2 hourly session – POA

How and When?

Available from 1 June 2020. Contact Ally Thomas on 0419 038 310 to make your booking now

Relationship Passion Map with Ally

Books by Joani Blank

New Book Products

I met Joani Blank at a Love Intimacy Sexuality Workshop in 2008, and stayed with her in her co-housing in Oakland. She inspired me to bring her to Sydney, Australia to run some sexuality workshops in 2009.

Joani Blank’s “Down There” Down Under Tour 2009

  • “Eve’s Secrets Revealed: all about Female Sexuality” (for men only) Mon 16 November 
  • “How to Get what you want in Bed (or wherever else you do It)” Tues 17 November
  • “It’s not a Secret any More: all about Women’s Sexuality” (for women only) Wed 18 November
  • Sex over 50 or 60 or 70  Thursday 19 November

Joani also held private sessions 1-1 with locals.

Her wisdom, sense of humour and fun made these workshops inspiring and enjoyable as well as educational for the participants!

Joani’s Achievements

Joani Blank founded Good Vibrations, the first woman-centered sex toy shop in USA in 1977.

Joani Blank
Joani Blank at Oakland Wharf in 2008

She also…

  • Founded “Down There Press” in 1975
  • Wrote and/or edited nine books.
  • Produced and directed two videos
  • Invented the Butterfly Vibrator and Titattoos (now Intimate Art Tattoos)
  • Trained and worked at the Sex Counseling Unit at The University of California, San Francisco (UCSF)
  • Was a volunteer counsellor at San Francisco Sex Information working at the switchboard every Friday evening for the first several years of its existence.
  • Taught sexuality courses in the Evening College at Skyline College in San Bruno, CA
  • Served on the Board of Directors of the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality (SSSS), publisher of the Journal of Sex Research.
  • Facilitated numerous sexuality workshops. She was always very interested in many aspects of sexuality: understanding eroticism, self-sexuality / masturbation, polyamory, and sexuality education for adults.
  • A Human Awareness Institute graduate and HAI Team Member.

Sex educator and advocate Joani Blank MA MPH, was the founder of Good Vibrations in San Francisco. She promoted sex-positivity for over 30 years. She was the author or editor of several sexual self-awareness books, including:

  • Femalia a beautiful book with thirty-two full-color photographs of women’s genitals reflect the diversity of women’s bodies. Therapists, sex educators, women’s health clinicians — and all women — will find this volume a welcome addition to their libraries. Photography by Michael Rosen, Jill Posener, Tee Corinne, Michael Perry, and Joani Blank. Unfortunately it is Out of Print.
  • Good Vibrations: The New Complete Guide to Vibrators;  
  • Still Doing it (women and men over 60 write about their sexuality);
  • First Person Sexual;
  • I Am My Lover: Women Pleasure Themselves (photographs)

Down There Press started in 1975 with the publication of her Playbook for Women about Sex and for many years was a part of Open Enterprises/Good Vibrations. It was sold to another publisher in 2007. None of the books that Joani wrote or edited are being kept in print by the new publisher, not even the three that sold tens of thousands in their lifetimes.

In 1992, Joani converted Good Vibrations and Down There Press into a worker cooperative. At the time, there were fourteen owners (including Joani in my new status as an equal owner). The company continued as a cooperative growing to 100 worker-owners until early in 2006. At that time the current owners, more than 70 of them, voted to abandon the cooperative ownership structure in favor of a more conventional corporate structure so that Good Vibrations could attract an outside investor.

The Playbook for Women about Sex by Joani Blank

This is a sexual self awareness book for every woman.
When you have filled out those sections which interest you, you can

  • hide the book
  • share it with a partner or friend
  • throw it away or
  • make it public.

You may enjoy going through the book again after a time to see if how you have changed.

Completing the exercises in this innovative playbook will help you become more aware of your attitudes, sexual history, body image, partner choices, what turns you on and communication patterns. by understanding your own feelings better, you’ll be better able to communicate with your partner and feel more comfortable with your own sexuality.
Limited paperback copies are available. The PDF is approved for release by Ally Thomas. Authorised by Joani Blank 2009.

The Playbook for Men about Sex by Joani Blank

This is a sexual self awareness book for every man.
When you have filled out those sections which interest you, you can

  • hide the book
  • share it with a partner or friend
  • throw it away or
  • make it public.

You may enjoy going through the book again after a time to see if how you have changed.

How come a woman wrote this book? Well, the Playbook for Women about Sex needed a companion piece and no man had written it yet. All the technical advisors, reviewers and editors of this book were men, and Joani was appreciative of their encouragement, support, and suggestions.

Limited paperback copies are available. The PDF is approved for release by Ally Thomas. Authorised by Joani Blank 2009.

A Kid’s First Book about Sex
by Joani Blank

And

The Playbook for Kids about Sex by Joani Blank

‘Kid’s First Book about Sex’ and the ‘Playbook for Kids About Sex’ (for somewhat older children) were written many years ago when Joani Blank’s daughter, now an adult with kids of her own, was a little girl. Both books are out of print and because Joani wants them to be readily available, she has made both of them available for FREE download HERE

You are welcome to print out these books for your own use, but please do not make multiple print copies for sale.

Still doing it (women and men over 60 write about their sexuality) by Joani Blank

Can’t think about your parents or your grandparents having sex? What about when you reach that golden age? A recent survey conducted by Modern Maturity and AARP found that more than 25 percent of Americans over the age of 75 indulge in sexual activity at least weekly.

Sexual pioneer Joani Blank has her ear on the pillow of sexual America, and the secret is coming out about sexual pleasure over age 60! Pulling the covers off, Blank has collected anecdotal evidence supporting these dry if tantalizing statistics. Nearly 40 women and men over the age of 60 share their stories of their partnered and solo sex; their gay, straight and bisexual experiences redefine our images of what it means to age sexually.

Still doing it expands our vision of sexuality beyond youth, deepening our understanding of how we grow sexually. These intimate accounts give all of us permission to seek lifelong sexual pleasure that can continue and get better indefinitely, and with infinite variety.

Editor Joani Blank founded Good Vibrations, the San Francisco-based sex toy, book and video store in 1977. Described as ‘unabashedly evangelical” by Playboy, she has dedicated her life to helping women and men find sexual pleasure.

I Am My Lover by Joani Blank

Six respected photographers present intimate portraits of 12 women practicing humanity’s first love – and last taboo. Over 100 thought provoking duotone and black and white photographs capture a powerful range of aspect and emotion additionally, the women photographed share with us their thoughts, recollections, fantasies, and feelings about their self-pleasuring.

Limited number of hardcover copies are available HERE

First Person Sexual by Joani Blank

Everyone does it – and hardly anyone talks about it!  More than 40 women and men describe their masturbation experiences in a series of vignettes and short stories.

These sexual progressives bare their souls, offering their tales of when and where they practice their solitary pleasure, what inspires them, and why and how they do it! They give new meaning to the term ‘digitize”, and reveal myriad new ways to pet the kitty or play in the one-man band. Read on, fuel your fantasies, and practice, practice, practice.

Pricing

Limited hard copies of some of Joani Blank’s books are available HERE.
Joani authorised me to copy and PDF the Playbooks for sale in 2009.

Name of BookDescriptionprice
Playbook for Women About Sex – PDFThis is a sexual self awareness book for every woman. Invented and hand lettered by Joani Blank
This PDF is approved for release by Ally Thomas.  Authorised by Joani Blank 2009.
AU$19.00 PDF
The Playbook for Women about Sex – Hard CopyA sexual self awareness book for every woman
by Joani Blank
A4 paperback booklimited copies available
AU$29.00
Playbook for Men About Sex – PDFThis is a sexual self awareness book for every man. This PDF is approved for release by Ally Thomas. Authorised by Joani Blank 2009.AU$19.00 PDF
Playbook for Kids About Sex – PDFFor older children and teenagers words by Joani Blank
pictures by Marcia Quackenbush This PDF is approved for release by Ally Thomas. Authorised by Joani Blank 2009.
FREE
A Kids first book about sex – PDFFor younger children by Joani Blank This PDF is approved for release by Ally Thomas. Authorised by Joani Blank 2009.FREE
I am My Lover – soft cover bookWomen Pleasure Themselves
edited by Joani Blank
Lambda Literary Award Finalist 1998
limited copies available
$55.00
First Person Sexual – paperback bookWomen and Men Write about Self-Pleasuring
Joani Blank; editor
Small Press Book Award Winner 1997
ORDER NOW

About Joani

More information about Joani Blank: http://www.joaniblank.com/personal.htm

Kids books: http://www.joaniblank.com/kidsbooks.htm

Unfortunately Joani died on 6 August 2016, aged 79.

Here are some articles about her life:

https://www.xbiz.com/news/210819/good-vibrations-founder-joani-blank-passes-away

and https://www.sfgate.com/local/article/Good-Vibrations-founder-Joani-Blank-feminist-dies-9130288.php

Healing and Chariklo

Energetic Healing

As a spiritual energetic healer, I find not being able to use the magic of connecting by touch and massage to help people heal themselves a challenge.

At the end of March 2020 I was going to go on a holiday to India for 2 weeks, so my energy was in “relaxation mode”. Unfortunately I could not go away.

In April 2020 I am “back” from my “holiday” and I need to use this powerful unconditional love energy that runs through me for healing.

Chariklo

On 6 April I found out about Chariklo, the wife of Chiron. In Greek mythology Chiron was the wounded healer and Chariklo was his wife. She was a naiad (freshwater nymph). Chariklo means “graceful spinner”. She related to our sense of personal space, subtle body and astral travel.

Astrology

Astrologer Pam Gregory, in her You Tube presentation “Full Super Moon in Libra 7-8 April 2020”, says “Chariklo enables healing by holding sacred space. She helps us get in touch with the ever present Now, the eternal stillness, permanence. We can just drop into and take ourselves out of stressful 3D situations. So she is helpful to us now. She is also a Soul midwife – transitions between life and death, and transitions of consciousness.”

David Leskowitz, another astrologer, in his article “Crafting a Future with the Centaur’s Cosmic Sandpaper: 2020 Transits of Chiron, Pholus and Chariklo” says “The daughter of Apollo, Chariklo is a naiad (fresh-water nymph) and wife of Chiron. In one of her myths she is a temple priestess of Vesta. Meaning “Graceful Spinner”, Chariklo relates to our sense of personal space, subtle body, and astral travel. Together with her partner Chiron, she guides us on the path of healing and awakening. An astrological keyword for Chariklo is charisma, or the bestowing of grace.” And also “Chariklo, Cosmic medicine-woman & The Stellium of 2020 when the infamous Saturn-Pluto conjunction strikes, Chariklo is there to lead the way forward as natural guide of boundaries. As a Centaur who orbits beyond Saturn and in resonance with Uranus, Chariklo represents the expansion of self that can follow the process of individuation.”

The key for me is “Chariklo enables healing by holding sacred space”. I like to create space in which something is allowed to heal. I have been doing this with Tantric Massage and Coaching and Counselling for many years.

In the last six months, I have been doing more Transformational Relationship Consultations for people who want to change their relationships – with themselves, with others, (in love sex or intimacy). I have had success with people who have had ED, fear of relationships, healed emotional mental and spiritual blocks.

So now I am offering online Transpersonal Relationship Consultation sessions on Zoom, discounted by 50%, until 30 April 2020.

  •  Transformational Relationship Coaching and Consultation program – usually $250 per hour
    x 5 weekly sessions or $1000 paid in full in advance in person (when possible). More details HERE
    Online using Zoom, or by phone = $125 per hour or $500 for 5 session program until 30 April 2020.
  • Payment can be by direct deposit, eftpos, VISA or MasterCard.
  • Payment plans are also available for full program of 5 sessions.

Make your booking on my Booking Page.

Chariklo – the partner of Chiron & Lady Shaman

Tears

Wept, soft and lonely on moonlit sands
Sobbed, wild and fretful, with the moaning wind
Inside they well up; o’erflow when alone.

Whispered timidly amongst somber pines
Groaned wildly with the ceaseless surf
When, unashamed and lonely, their sound fills the night.

Flowing out as silver moondrops
Breaking silence in the lonely house
They come, emotion-born, to flow and grow
As grief overwhelms.

Tears of anguish, tears of longing
(Tears are left when nothing else will do)
Tears, not wept for an age
Now herald the end of “innocence” and childhood.

Alone I cry
No one to comfort me
No shoulder to cry on
Or arms to hold me close.

A puddle of tears forms around me
Encircling me with grief
For a baby that will never be mine
For my motherhood unfulfilled.

Afterwards, I hear a baby crying for 2 days
I cannot console her,
There is no one to support me here
I feel lonely, alone and sad.

I deny I am a mother for 20 years
Trying to be a “good girl”
Doing what my parents tell me to do
Going against my integrity.

I send a big box of love to her every year
On her birthday …
Vowing one day I will meet her.
And I do.

She is 21, she shows me the photos of her life
And I feel proud, grateful to give her to her adopted family.
She invites me to her wedding
It’s the proudest day of my life.

a poem by Ally

Ally's sad tears

Sacred Burlesque Playshops

in Adelaide

Bring out your playful goddess and hidden feminine energy while dancing up a storm with a bunch of women in a supportive fun environment with Ally Thomas, Adelaide’s womens Tantra goddess

Learn how to slowly and seductively remove your clothes to turn on your lover and your self… (And an audience… if you choose!)

2 evenings of fun, sensual dance and movement for women only
Bring a girl friend for a fun evening!

Ally has had burlesque and strip tease experience in New Zealand, NSW and Queensland!
More details and photos in her book “What Men and Women Really Want”. Order HERE

Tuesday 26 November 2019Sacred Burlesque Playshop part 1
7-9pm Private venue in Unley. Limited numbers
Music and moves
$60 Bring a girl friend for free! (includes sinful supper and champagne or bubbly)

Tuesday 10 December 2019 – Sacred Burlesque Playshop part 2
7-9pm Private venue in Unley. Limited numbers
Timing and choreography
$60 Bring a girl friend for free! (includes sinful supper, champagne or bubbly)

Book and pay for both nights $100 for 2 …

Practice, practice, practice

Performance – Burlesque Party – Friday 17 January 2020

7pm-midnight.
Would you like to perform for a party!
BYO drinks & a plate of food to share
Bring your partner and your friends for a party night of burlesque fun. Dress up or dress down.
Contact Ally for more details…

Ally Thomas

phone Ally 0419 038 310 or email ally@mytantramassage.com.au for bookings and more details or see Contact Page.