Sex Education

What is self love?

Self love is being in heart space.

How do I get out of head space – thoughts, feelings, chatter, busy busy? And relax into my heart and love my self?energy_heart_sm

Here are 6 ways:

  1. Awareness
    Increase your awareness of your body – tense your hands, feel the tension – then relax them and feel the release. Screw up your face and hold your breath, then relax and smile. Stretch out one leg and circle your foot, be aware of your foot moving; then stretch the other leg out and circle the other foot, awareness in your toes. Rub your hand on your tummy if you are sitting down, on your buttock or thigh if you are standing, feeling from the inside, being aware of the sensations only. Be aware of loving your body’s movement and stillness. Send gratitude and love to your body for the way it automatically responds to your thoughts.
  2. Breath
    Sit quietly, placing one hand on your heart and the other on your belly. Breathe out into your belly, feel it rise and fall. Be aware of your breath going in and out through your mouth and nose. Take 20 breaths, imagining your breath coming in through your belly and circulating up to your heart – loving your self.
  3. Chanting meditation
    Use Indian mantras or your favourite TV jingle, or a favourite song or poem. Out loud is best. Also humming works, or whispering. When you can hear it, the sound resonates.
    When you are in a group eg saying AUM or singing, the sound amplifies, and the energy is stronger.
    When you meditate on the repetitive sound, it can take you away from your thoughts and worries, and bring you into the present moment, ready to love your self.
  4. Dancing and movement
    Dancing is a good way to love your self. When you dance you can be lost in the moment. Free flow dancing is great exercise and a good way to release tension and relax your whole body. Movement, even swaying as you are sitting, can release tension so that you can relax, enjoy the moment and love your self.
  5. Massage and stroking
    I love touch, massage and stroking, so my biased opinion is also for you to stroke your self lovingly. Caress your face, your hair, your head, as if you were caressing your lover. You are! Then extend the touch to your arms and shoulders, stroke down your torso, your body, breasts, legs toes and feet. You can use soft fabrics like velvet, or find a feather to stroke yourself with for a different feeling. Massage that love in!
  6. Voyeur
    If you want to really stretch loving your self and your physical body – stand in front of a full length mirror and look at yourself – lovingly. Praise all the parts of your body you normally criticise. Stroke, massage, preen, and love that wonderful sexy person in the mirror! Watch what happens to your face and how you feel about your self afterwards…

Meditation is another way to get in touch with your self and love your self.

  • Use a candle to look at – focus on the flame and watch your thoughts go by – coming back to the contemplation of the candle.
  • Use the smell of incense to waft you away into a meditative reverie.
  • Read a book and love your self to be lost in the world of your imagination.
  • Slowly touch and stroke your body for self pleasure, whispering positive loving words of love eg
    • I love my legs which carry me through life
    • I appreciate my hands to feel my body
    • I love my skin, its softness and hardness and hairiness
    • I enjoy my genitals being gently stroked and held
    • I love my eyes to see sunsets sunrises and people I love
    • I love my self
    • I love me, I do.

If you would like to love your self more, pamper your self, and combine 3 of the 6 ways above, contact me for a Tantra Massage! Bookings HERE and my Schedule HERE.

Ally Thomas 2016

WANTED: Women to teach Tantra

Wanted: Women to train as Tantra Teachers

All over Australia

Especially Canberra, Cairns, Darwin, Tasmania, Townsville

Do you believe you have healing hands? Do you love touch, stroking and massage?
Want to use your Reiki energy to help men and women heal themselves? Are you a Lightworker?

Teach and educate men

–       how to control their ejaculation and last longer

–       how to pleasure women better

–       how to improve communication when making love

–       how to take making love and sexuality to a higher level of Joy and Bliss for both Men and Women

Do you have a massage table?

Do you want to work from home or a private place?

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Ally’s Practitioner Training has 5 Modules

The first one is how to give the Tantra Pleasure Experience to Men. Second one is for Womens Sensual and Yoni Massage, Third is Advanced Tantra sessions, 4th is training for Couples sessions, 5th is how to run your tantra massage business successfully. Mine has been running successfully for over 8 years. I have taught lots of people about Tantra and Sacred Sexuality all over Australia and New Zealand, and trained 10 people in some or all of these modules.

Each module is approximately 10 hours and can be done over 2 or 3 days, depending on your availability.  You will also receive a Women’s Tantra Massage/Initiation as part of your Training.

The training is one-one, and you need to book 3-4 models for training and practice.

The pre-requisites are:

*      a passion and desire to help and heal people, few judgements about people, lots of compassion and unconditional love to give

*      Completion of Application Form and return by email ASAP, and a phone conversation (approx 30 minutes)

*      You need to have your own portable massage table.

*      Some sexy clothing that make you feel like a goddess.

*      Payment of deposit of $500 to confirm your intention to do the Training. You can pay your deposit by direct deposit, or VISA or MasterCard. (NB with credit card it is there is a 3% transaction fee.)

So if you are interested in investing in your own business, learning more to enhance your existing business, or purely for personal use, contact Ally to arrange your training sessions.

More details see Tantra Training Academy

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Your Pleasure

What is your pleasure?

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Your Pleasure is relaxing, enjoying, doing nothing, receiving. Pleasure is surrendering to being pleasured. In giving pleasure you often receive it as well.

What gives you pleasure? Giving gifts, giving compliments, receiving touch, receiving compliments, hearing someone say “I love you”? Doing spontaneous special things for your spouse, for your friend, with your lover, to your partner? Receiving a special present of time or a quality item?

Is it appreciating a sunset or a babies smile or child’s first steps? Smelling fresh mown grass or hay? Eating a beautiful meal of a smorgasbord of tastes and colours? Or hearing a special song that makes you feel romantic or loved?

Do you enjoy reading a book, meditating, or learning something new? Check out my book “What Women Really Want – 6 Tantric Sex Techniques for Men and Couples” HERE

A child’s pleasure is delight, wonder of a ladybird or a new toy – which can be a cardboard box!
A teenager’s pleasure could be a night of passionate sex!
An adult’s pleasure could be the delicious taste of a delicate wine, or a breath of fresh air or the stars at night…

Your pleasure can be the absence of pain or the edge or pain – it’s different things to different people…

A smile expresses pleasure. If you add sound of laughter it builds and spreads more, from one person to another. A baby’s giggle, a child’s laugh, and adults chuckle make us smile or laugh too Laughter is infectious, bubbling up and transferring from you to me…

Pleasure turns sadness into happiness, joy into bliss,
giggles into laughter and ennui into love.

What is your greatest pleasure?

You can experience a Tantra Pleasure Experience – a taste of Tantra with Ally today, this week. More details HERE, make a Booking, call on 0419 038 310 if you are in Adelaide EMAIL if you are in Australia, New Zealand or any country in the world…

Your pleasure is medicine and love has the power to heal with tantra massage
Pleasure is medicine and love has the power to heal. Devi Ward

G-spot questions and answers

Where is my G-spot?

Women

Where is the elusive G-spot? Goddess spot, OMG spot or Graffenberg spot?

Women would like to know where it is, does it exist? Sometimes you have felt it when he comes in from behind you (doggie). WOW that was a good spot!!

What is a G-spot orgasm for Women? It is very different to clitoral orgasm or vaginal orgasm. Very intense. The women has to be very relaxed and stimulated so that she can enjoy the intensity. And of course the man has to know what he is doing.

Men want to know how to find it, where it is, how do you know you have found it and what to do when you have found it?

It’s easy to look at an image of where the g-spot is (see below). It’s just up behind the public bone, but is your finger long enough? How do you know when you’ve found it?

It’s easier if someone shows you, teaches you, and you have the experience. Ally teaches this in Couples Tantra Sessions and in Session 3 for Men

Men

What about the male G-spot? How do we find it? Is it safe?

Is it easy to find? Yes, see below

Is it the same as Prostate Massage? Yes, internal G-spot massage is the same as prostate massage

Can it be stimulated externally or does it have to be internally?
Yes she can stimulate it externally – on the ridge of the perineum, just below the anus.
Internally, it’s best to wear protective gloves and use plenty of lube. He must relax and tune into his breathing. It takes a bit of practice, however some men really enjoy the experience.

Enquiries about Prostate massage HERE

How to find a woman’s G-spot  – A workshop for lovers and couples

Come and find out
* how to relax and prepare your partner so she/he feels honoured and respected
* exactly how to find the G-spot – where it is and how you know you have found it
* what to do with it when you find it, G-spot orgasms
* how to end with love.

Enquiries HERE

 

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Premature ejaculation control

MEN

  • Do you come too quickly? Are you frustrated by PE? see PE
  • Want to learn how to last longer? For yourself for more pleasure, or to pleasure your partner more? see CONTROL
  • Do you have ejaculation problems? Either coming too soon or not being able to come when you want to? Ask Ally about Tantric breath techniques.
  • Do you have erection problems or erectile dysfunction? See ED post
  • Does performance anxiety and/or low self confidence in love-making worry you?
  • Do you have performance anxiety, low self confidence in love-making?
  • Have you had prostate problems, prostate surgery? see PROSTATE (below)
  •  Are you too stressed or too tired to perform in bed? Are you or your partner unsatisfied because one wants more sexual activity than the other?Tantric techniques can help  you.

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Definitions of PE

Premature ejaculation (PE) is a condition in which a man ejaculates earlier than he or his partner would like him to. Premature ejaculation is also known as rapid ejaculation, rapid climax, premature climax, or early ejaculation. The most common definition is that premature ejaculation occurs if the ejaculation occurs within two minutes of penetration (wikipedia). Premature ejaculation can be differentiated between two types: primary, which is present from the time a male begins puberty, and secondary which is acquired later in the man’s life. Premature ejaculation can be further divided between; global premature ejaculation, which occurs with all partners and in all contexts and situational premature ejaculation which occurs in certain situation or with specific partners

Most men experience premature ejaculation at least once in their lives. Because there is great variability in both how long it takes to ejaculate and how long both partners want sex to last, if at all, an accurate prevalence rate is hard to determine… (from Wikipedia)

“At the 2006 Congress of the European Society for Sexual Medicine, an American research paper reported:

  • the average lasting time of men with PE was 1.8 minutes
  • ‘normal’ men lasted an average of 7.3 minutes.

But there were males who claimed to have premature ejaculation, yet who could last up to 25 minutes. This clearly shows people have wildly differing ideas about what is normal!”

“Premature ejaculation (PE)is also known as rapid or fast or early or involuntary ejaculation. It is defined as persistent or recurrent ejaculation with minimal stimulation, either before, upon or shortly after penetration and before a person wishes it. This disturbance causes distress and interpersonal difficulties and can lead to decreased satisfaction to either one or both partners. It is now also recognized that ejaculation happens with little or no voluntary control.”          

You are NOT alone

Premature Ejaculation is widely believed to be the most common male sexual dysfunction, it affects between 20% and 30% of men and affects men of all ages.                                         (http://www.sexualhealthaustralia.com.au)

Premature ejaculation is a common sexual problem observed in men worldwide. It can cause frustration, guilt and performance anxiety.
Often PE, ED and other sexual problems are caused by anxiety, depression, worry, overwork, stress, tiredness, guilt and bereavement. Other factors can be obesity, diabetes, alcohol, smoking, nicotine and other drugs (recreational and depression).

Many men suffer from premature ejaculation for a long time because they find it embarrassing to talk about their sexual problems with doctors, therapists, partners or friends. The problem is not doing anything about it, because if you don’t do anything, it will get worse. So you need to take action TODAY!

The reason it’s so quick goes back to when you learned about your sexuality and masturbation. It had to be quiet and quick, so you didn’t get caught, didn’t it?! And so now you need to learn how to control it – to last longer, to be louder, so that you can have more pleasure and so your partner can have more too…

And then there are times that it comes up when you don’t want it to, and others when you want it to and it doesn’t. Its all about control – coming when you want to, not when it wants to!

As you know, there are SO many treatments, cures and drugs (Viagra and other pills and potions, injections), clinics and therapists offering solutions. These don’t work for everyone, and they all have side-effects, some worse than what you are trying to heal!
However if you would like to learn the natural way (no drugs, no sniffing) to control, as taught to many Emperors, Kings, Princes in ancient India and China, then you’re at the right place to find out about Tantra.

Control

Learning Tantric exercises can help you control your erection, your orgasms (so you can have many), your ejaculation (which is different from orgasm – when you learn how to control it).

It’s easy to learn, and in my first (of 3) sessions you can learn how to do it and practise so that you get the experience of how it works. Then its up to you to practise more!

Learn how to last longer, elevate your sexual bliss and control your ejaculation naturally with Tantra

Prostate

If you have had prostate surgery, you can learn how to control your erection, and still have amazing pleasure, with Tantric techniques. Also see ED page for natural Australian healing oil which can also help you.

For a confidential, safe, enjoyable one hour session, make an appointment to see me NOW!

See my Testimonials below and HERE for success stories.

Contact Ally now or make a booking on the Booking Page

Testimonials

Hi Ally,

This is the testimonial I promised you in appreciation for your (extra) time & most wonderful experience you provided me with.
As mentioned I discussed with an Indian doctor that I have difficulty getting then maintaining an erection. I guess I was looking for a quick fix drug such as Viagra but the Doc suggested I try Tantra in the first instance while I undergo all the usual health tests. He suggested that I might actually enjoy the experience even if I was unable to get and/or maintain an erection. (How right he was!) Anyway, I decided to give Tantra a go, but being a sceptical person I thought I would possibly have a relaxing massage but be back to the doctor for the miracle drug! (How wrong was I?)
Anyway, I happened upon your site & I’m so glad I did as you managed to assist me in gaining a reasonable erection which, with your physical efforts & verbal instructions I was able to maintain. In addition, you brought me very close to ejaculation several times. I felt so good with my apparent orgasm/s which I didn’t think could happen with males.
Ally taught me to breathe & control intimate muscles. Breathing was sometimes difficult to control as Ally’s wonderful touches & beautiful presence often took my breath away. It is so hard to explain, Ally’s touches had all of my senses going totally crazy & I think I lost control of reality & moved into a land of fantasy. (God she is good! How does she do this?).
Ally is a very professional & intelligent lady in that she can talk to you as the client explaining the concept of Tantra & keep your attention as a teacher but when she is with you in a more intimate position she is so very, very sexual almost as if she is transformed between a teacher, masseuse & intimate partner but all the time explaining that this is self love. Well if this is self love, I would want Ally there to share it, she is simply fantastic.
Thank you so much Ally I love you for being a true professional who is a such a wonderfully patient & understanding person but especially for providing me with the most breathtaking sexual experience that left me relaxed, drained, satisfied & just about any other pleasant feeling I could imagine. If you were a drug, I’d be addicted.
When our session finished I realised we had gone a little overtime but it felt like I was with you much longer. I don’t mind saying that you had me trembling with an indescribable feeling of pleasure. Then, being the ultimate professional that you obviously are, you surprised me again by not rushing me out of the door but sat me down to discuss my feelings & allowing me the time with you to just talk.
I was so very comfortable with your company (I’m often a little awkward with one-on-one female company outside of business) I didn’t want to leave …
Let me assure that you & the experience you gave me will be etched in my memory for sometime
A good price for a great service………A very satisfied client………….Thanks Ally, I’ll be back……..Soon!
Ally, you said I should let out my true feelings & at the moment these are my feelings. I just wish I could express such feelings in better words; but how do I describe perfection (you & what you do) & what is in my mind, or more to the point my heart. In such a short time you have made me take a breath, not just on your table but in my life. I may not have stopped working but I’m rescheduling my 24/7 workload to allow for a break or two, in fact I called up a couple of old friends (nothing to do with work) & we are having dinner tonight. I would like to use your service as a future time out (it beats fishing).
Kind regards, T

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Erotic or Kinky

What’s the difference between Erotic and Kinky?

It’s the difference between using a feather or using a whole chicken!Erotic_Vs_Kinky_Pratchett

I love this quote! I recently found out that this famous quote was made by Terry Pratchett, the author of Discworld books, plays and other amazing stories.

So what is erotic? Is it sexual, turn on, teasing, imagination, fantasy, romantic, sensual, vanilla?

And what does “kinky” conjur up for you? Is it fantasy, BDSM, fetish, hard, bondage, sensations, orgies, groups, or something else…

And where is the edge between erotic and kinky? Is it in definition? Is it a boundary? Who decides?

Does kinky spice up your ordinary sexual experience? How often do you have to do it to make it kinky? Once or many times?

Kinky Fetish Bondassage

Bondassage can be kinky. It is a sensual, edgy combination of massage, sensory deprivation and sensation play, which can be relaxing, erotic or exotic!

Tantra Pleasure Experience – Tantra Massage

A Tantra Pleasure Experience is Erotic, Sensual, connecting. Some people think Tantra is Kinky, however once you experience it, your perspective shifts. I help you experience Tantra with a massage, a sensual massage, which relaxes and invigorates you, connects you to your self, and can heal your feeling of separation from the world. So instead of a little feather, you become integrated with the whole chicken, the egg and the universe!

Book now for Tantra or Bondassage session with Ally. More info for Men Women Couples

** A couple more good quotes from Terry Pratchett below

Namaste

Ally

Terry Pratchett quote about naked witches
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