Men, Women & Tantra

Jade of the Green Thumb

He was called Jade. He loved everything green and growing. His favourite form when working in any garden was to be naked. So, his clients called him “The Naked Gardener”.

He was recommended to her by a female friend. She said he was available only to help women with their gardening needs. And he was happy for them to watch him work in their garden as they would see his gorgeous muscular tanned body. The muscles on his shoulders and arms moved deliciously as he trimmed the trees or pulled out weeds or planted new baby plants in the sunshine, as the women fantasized about him.

He preferred to plant by the moon’s phases – generally that was: leafy plants, flowers and fruits in the first quarter after new moon. Fruiting annuals for abundant seed are best sown in the second quarter of the moon. As the moon’s light decreases, root vegetables and crops, berries, vines and bulbs can best be planted in the third quarter of the moon. Then he sweet-talked them to grow and harvest abundantly. And of course he had to come and check their progress as often as their owners wanted.

Jade cooling off in the Garden

One beautiful sunny summer’s day, he arrived dressed in green shorts and black tank top which showed off his sexy body, Jade asked her “What do you want me to do in your garden today?”. Standing there in her mini skirt and low-cut blouse, she replied “I would like to have a picnic today – with you! I’ve watched you work in my garden for weeks now, and I want to treat you and reward you.”

Jade said “Only if I can feed you and then feast on you too. For I too have watched you and I desire to make passionate love to you!”

HER BEGINNING

So they spread out a blanket on the soft grass underneath the trees in the shade. She bought out food and wine she had prepared. Then she said “I’m going to blindfold you so you can REALLY appreciate this food, without distraction.”

The birds and bees made music around them that seemed louder and more romantic as she tied a satin blindfold over his eyes. It felt soft and silky on his face. Then she lay him down and he surrendered to her pleasure. First, she teased his mouth with a salty taste. A moment later he could smell his favourite lavender bush fragrance. Then she gently rang a tiny bell beside his right ear, and blew a kiss inside it.

Then she stroked something soft up his legs and down is arms. His body tingled with the sensation.

The next exquisite sensation was her soft lips kissing his, and releasing a wet cascade of bubbling wine into his mouth. He swallowed and lapped up her kisses, passionately returning them with all the love in his heart.

Feeling her deliciously warm body lie on top of his, and his arms gently encircled her, holding their hearts together as one. Jade stroked her hair softly, running his hands and fingernails gently all over her back. She moaned and wriggled, her hot yoni stimulating him more and more. He thought his rock-hard lingam would burst through his thin shorts!

HIS TURN

Rolling over so that he was on top, he said “My turn to partake” and he transferred the blindfold do her eyes so she could enjoy the unknown spontaneous pleasures of the Garden of Jade’s Delight as delivered by him.

First, Jade drank some water and sprinkled it on her tummy, slowly licking between her breasts and nuzzling her neck with sweet kisses, at which she moaned and whimpered with delight.

Then blowing gently in her ear, and whispered “I love you” and “I want you” and “I need you”, then cheekily licked insider her ear, dissolving her into laughter and giggles.

Next, he crushed some sweet mint and basil leaves which he had freshly plucked from the garden and put it under her nose. She breathed deeply of the delicious bouquet. “Mmmmmm…” she moaned

He bit into a strawberry and then kissed her, pushing the tidbit into her mouth with his tongue. As she enjoyed its juiciness he slowly moved down to lick and suck her turgid nipples, as she moaned and the juice overflowed and dripped from her lips.

His tongue lapped a winding path down her torso to her belly button and nibbled around her tummy, finally brushing her tiny landing strip of pubic hair.

He stopped, and put his hand on her Venus mound, feeling with his palm the juiciness seeping through her lips. “Is it OK to explore your sacred garden?” he asked her permission.

“Oh yes, yes, yes!” she cried with delight, so he gently stroked her inner thighs, running his finger nails across her hot flesh. After that he carefully took off her skimpy G-string, explored her groin – softly stroking the velvet skin with his fingertips, moving inwards to her outer labia, her inner labia. She thought he would never get to her juiciness but she was loving his teasing. Then he finally circled her clit with his tongue, caressing its engorged shaft, licking and flicking her to one orgasm after another.

Her whole body was tingling from his sensual touch and the sunlight dappled through the jade leaves of the tree.

Finally he said breathlessly “OK to enter your sacred garden now?”

She opened her legs in anticipation of his first penetration – “This is always one of my favourite parts of love making,” she purred, “With pleasure, Jade”

He teased her with the tip of his strong hard erection, touching her introitus (opening of her vagina), then slowly, slowly, inch by inch, entered her juicy hot yoni, filling it with his big, hot masculinity.

As it slid smoothly in and out, it felt like silk and satin and the exquisite pleasure of connecting with her cervix or G spot, she didn’t know which, and didn’t care either… She was floating on waves of pleasure, which radiated warmly from her yoni and his lingam and spread through her whole body and out far beyond. It felt like she was the whole yoni-verse! Nothing else existed except this euphoric pleasure of his lips and hers joining in a circle, and the tantric joining of their energy into a sphere of oneness and delight.

He varied his strokes – sometimes faster and sometimes slower, as he rode the waves of energy, controlling his desire with ease of long practice, so that their love making continued for many long blissful hours.

Jade with straw hat in the Garden

Punctuated by morsels of food and shared mouthfuls of wine or water, they gave and received their love until the sun set on that first of many delicious days exploring their Gardens.

She loved sharing her garden with the Naked Gardener.

Crystal Fire – the biggest strip tease!

An excerpt from ‘Chaper 1 – T is for Teasing’ in my book “What Men and Women Really Want – 6 Tantric Love Secrets” which has been edited to include more juicy information 😉

Crystal Fire's story

Here’s how I learned about the art of teasing…

A bit of an exhibitionist, I have always loved dancing and ‘dressing up’.

Pink Pussycat Club in New Zealand

When I was 21, I was living in Auckland, New Zealand, and I needed some extra money. I saw an advertisement for ‘dancers’ at the ‘Pink Pussycat Club’. I went for an interview and audition. I was told that all I had to do was to walk around on the stage, dance and take my clothes off. I thought that would be so easy, and I got the job!
Over the next few weeks and months, I watched the other girls, learned from them, and had fun teasing the audience. Men love to be teased, I loved to tempt and tease them and enjoyed watching their obvious pleasure.

Also at that time I did my first massage training at the Massage Parlour next door. With another woman and trained by a woman, I am sure it was a setup the first time I did a massage on a man, because he asked me for a “special”. I didn’t know what that meant!! Of course it meant that he wanted me to massage his cock. I said ok, thinking that this wasn’t included in my training… When he turned over he had a huge erection… Suffice to say it wasn’t a very good initiation into sensual massage and a happy ending!

Crystal Fire

My strip tease dancing in New Zealand ended when I met the man who was to be my first husband, Tony, at the massage parlour one night. We would often relax in the warm softly cushioned area on top of the sauna in the Massage Parlour, and he told me he ran a night club across the road, which he invited me to. Then we went out for dinner and became friends. Although I had a high libido, because I sort of worked on the fringes of “in the sex industry”, I wasn’t interested in becoming a sex worker or even having a relationship. So because he wasn’t pushing for sex, I enjoyed being with a man who didn’t seem to have one thing on his mind.

In those days it was illegal to sell alcohol in a night club in Auckland, so Tony invented a system where a customer paid for a card of 6 drinks at the entrance, then they took the card to the bar. When they claimed their drinks, the card was punched.

When his night club was raided one night by the police and he wasn’t there because he was out with me, he told me that he had been living there as well, and he had lost his lodgings. So he moved into my flat with me. After living together for 2 years we decided to get married.

Strip and Blush in Sydney

Five years later I was living in Sydney, Australia, my boyfriend Terry started ‘Strip and Blush’ birthday telegrams. Again I enjoyed wearing wigs, dressing up, teasing and embarrassing people for their birthdays in a fun, entertaining way.

Terry also produced and directed ‘Ladies’ Nights’ and strip shows, and we created the stage character, ‘Crystal Fire’ for these shows. We did our own short, sexy versions of shows like ‘Rocky Horror’ and ‘Grease’ at local clubs and pubs, often using local strippers both male and female to join us in the performances. I also did a couple of shows in December as the character “Mary Christmas”.

I enjoyed going amongst the audience, looking in their eyes and teasing them. One of the unwritten rules is that the dancers could sit on people’s lap, dance up and down and turn them on with a look, however the men weren’t allowed to touch us…

Climax Girls in Brisbane

When Terry and I split up I went to live in Brisbane, Queensland. Wanting a bit of extra money, I applied and I was interviewed to be a stripper for ‘Climax Girls’. I got the job without an audition.

Surprised, I asked why?

My female employer answered that I wouldn’t be here if I didn’t know what I was doing!

I loved teasing the groom at buck’s parties, doing school girl acts, and rubbing oil on my body while I danced and teased.

My highlight was performing to a group of about 300 bikers one Easter.

The back of a semi trailer made a lovely big stage – high enough that the heads of the 300 or so ‘bikers’ were at my feet. As I slowly and seductively teased my clothes off my brown body, with many bumps and grinds, they clapped and cheered, chanting “More, more!” (meaning LESS clothes of course!)
I was the final strip tease act of the Saturday evening entertainment of their Easter weekend in a secret location in rural Queensland. 
For my last dance I needed someone to rub oil all over my naked body. The ‘leader of the pack’ volunteered!

As I gyrated and moved, he applied oil to my back, arms, legs and breasts with obvious joy and delight. His jealous mates loved it!
There was so much teasing and pleasing in our cheeky fun interaction, that afterwards he asked me to ‘entertain’ him privately. I refused, saying ‘I would rather be a fantasy for you forever, than a reality for one night!’

Crystal Fire Queensland

Crystal Fire with a Difference

Both men and women love to be teased. Temptation, curiosity and control have been the key to seduction for eons.

Here are some more photos of Crystal Fire in her other costumes, identities and past-times. Enjoy!

I enjoyed meeting new and old friends, dressing up and dancing the Burlesque Ball at Stamford Grand in Glenelg just after I arrived in Adelaide in 2011.

Crystal Fire at burlesque ball 2011d
Crystal Fire with hat at burlesque ball 2011

I also love watching Burlesque shows – professional and amateur – at the Adelaide Fringe,
Also I have held Burlesque parties for my friends to dress up and tease and have fun.

Ally burlesque party 2020

I have taught strip tease and burlesque classes at ConFest events, and organised the students to dress up, undress and perform for evening performances.

I still do private strip tease performances for special people, and when clients request it.

Crystal Fire & Terry in Snow

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Teasingly

Ally

Yoni Mapping

What makes your partner tick?

Find out about Yoni Mapping with Ally

  • Do you really want to give your female partner the most pleasure?
  • Do you know where and how to touch her – inside and out?
  • Want to find out about your own Yoni hotspots, pain spots, G spots?

‘Yoni Mapping’ or ‘pussy mapping’ is a conscious way to explore your pussy, or your female lover’s yoni, internally and record the results. “Yoni” means ‘Sacred Garden’, so you can mindfully explore, reconnect and heal the floral spots in your Sacred Garden.

Intention of Yoni Mapping

The intention of Yoni Mapping is to draw a map of your yoni. It’s not about stimulation. Sometimes the feelings are intense, sometimes numb or non-existent. You could feel discomfort, tension, sensitivity, stress, pain, disconnection, pressure or tightness. Emotions may surface – sadness, pain, happiness, grief, fear, anger, or giggles! Also the delicious sensations of tingles, arousal, warmness, juiciness and pleasure…

The main thing, especially the first time, is to feel it, record it, and move on. The process will take about 30 to 60 minutes to draw a “map” of your yoni.

Purpose of Yoni Mapping

The purpose of Yoni Mapping is to connect or reconnect with your yoni and your feminine energy. To help you feel safe to open yourself to receive more pleasure and self love. Your Yoni Map is unique. It does change, but once you have done it, you can be more aware of your pleasure and pain spots. You can heal emotional, physical and spiritual feelings that arise. The pain spots can easily be massaged away. The pleasure spots or G spots can be explored to reach higher states, which helps you and your lover to experience more ecstasy, more orgasms, more joy and bliss.

Communication and Relaxation

With your partner and lover, communication is very important. Trust, being able to relax and having and holding a safe space are crucial elements in yoni mapping. So Yoni Mapping is usually preceded by a relaxing full body massage. You use self awareness and connecting with your body which can be beyond the physical. You both need to be clear that it is not usually stimulating sexually so a climax or orgasm won’t be your goal.

Outcomes

This practice can be an uplifting spiritual experience, tuning you into your own sacred feminine energy. Sometimes there can be a release of tension, of energy, that can heal past trauma which was held in your yoni. Other sensations would could be a feeling of opening, expanding or floating. Of course there could be tingling and juiciness and pleasure too!

So enjoy those feelings as they express themselves. Laugh and giggle or cry. Just let go of those feelings in the safe space that is created for you to love yourself more.

The result is a diagram of your Yoni on a certain day, which is the starting point for more exploration and pleasure for you and your yoni.

You can do this by yourself, but it’s much easier, more pleasurable and fun to do it with your partner or with guidance from an experienced Tantric Practitioner (like me!).

Yoni Mapping Sessions with Ally 2023

Did you learn about your yoni at school? From your mum? Your friends? From your lovers? Reading books, or from experience?

The Internet is a minefield of confusing and conflicting information.

Often girls and women do not learn about their own anatomy and genitals. It is hidden away and shamed. Not easy to see or feel what is inside.

To try to understand your yoni (or someone elses), think of one of the other orifices in your body – your mouth. You cannot ‘feel’ your mouth, until you either move the muscles (smile) or put something in it – food or your finger. A woman’s yoni is the same! She needs to move the muscles (pelvic floor sexercises) or feel something inside it (a finger, a tongue, a lingam (cock), vibrator or dildo).

Women do not often explore their yoni through self pleasuring (masturbation), so yoni mapping is a safe, gentle way to explore your yoni (means sacred garden).

So come and have a Yoni Mapping Session or sessions with Ally, especially if you have already had a sensual massage or yoni massage with Ally in the past.

Before your session

To prepare you need to complete a confidential questionnaire to personalise your yoni mapping session.

Your Yoni Mapping session

Some of the following may be included in your yoni mapping session:

  • personal coaching
  • sexual education – eg orgasms, feminine energy
  • consent and setting boundaries
  • Breath work to relax and connect with your body
  • relaxing full body sensual massage
  • yoni Massage
  • Yogi mapping with medical gloves, checking for numbness, blockages, pleasure spots. There can be emotional releases, you can explore your sensitivities, physical pain or tension, self love and self pleasuring, improving your orgasms, balancing your sexual energy and unblocking your chakras.
  • You will have more awareness of your yoni and the differences.
  • Your partner will also be more aware of the areas in your yoni which are sensitive and pleasurable.

After the session

You feel relaxed and more connected to your Yoni, know about your pleasure spots and where they are in your Yoni.

You will have a map to take home to explore by yourself or with your partner.

Follow Up session

I recommend you have 1 or 2 follow up sessions, about one month apart, as you map can change as you become more aware.

Prices for Yoni Mapping

Yoni Mapping 1-1 with Ally 90 minutes $300

Couple Yoni Mapping with Ally 2 hours $400 (woman receives massage and man assists with mapping)

Yoni mapping follow up session 1-1 with Ally one hour $200

YM Program – 3 sessions $600

First session is 90 minutes, 2 and 3 sessions are 40 minutes.

Each session includes a full body relaxing massage and a yoni map to take home, plus some of the points above.

Book now – phone Ally on 0419 038 310

Unhappy Mothers Day

This is dedicated to all the mothers who do NOT celebrate Mother’s Day. You may have lost your baby or your child through death, or adoption or other ways – mentally or physically. Or you have not been able to have a baby for one reason or another.

Mothers grieve their lost baby – whether trying for conception, a baby not grown to be a child, teenager or adult. A mother can also lose her child to disease, family conflicts or religious or government interventions.

Teenagers are distant from their mothers, usually because tremendous hormonal changes make them challenge everything happening – in their bodies and minds. Changes can be so unbalancing, rebellious and scary that thoughts and words turn to rejection, reckless abandon, and sometimes suicide, therefore, leading to loss, although this can often be a temporary phase.

The bittersweet joy and grief of seeing “my little one”, “all grown up” and getting married to their own love is a big moment’s separation for a mother too. This can often be healed by grandchildren. Grief, pain or sadness of losing a beloved child who dies before his or her mother can also”break her heart”.

The thought of Mother’s Day and your mother might bring up toxic feelings of revulsion, triggering anger, resentment and other negative emotions.

Separation by ocean, country and custom is also a common fear and wound that mother and child can experience. Sporadic communication is often frustrating on both sides.

And then there is a sadness of losing your own mother – physically, emotionally, mentally or spiritually – and your own feelings of sadness, grief and frustration.

The frustration of BEING a mother feeling unappreciated (except for one day a year) tired, stressed, overworked and underpaid.

So please have compassion and unconditional love for other women on Mother’s Day as they may not all have loving families to be with.

And if, like me, you are a mother that has lost her child, given birth and not been able to love, nurture and mother her; spoil yourself now. Treat yourself as you would want to be treated – with love, happiness and joy.

Ally

unhappy mothers day

Woman’s Pain

MTM blog March 2023

Womans Pain - pink clit
pink c l i t

Many clients and friends have come to me or asked for help about lack of interest or waning interest in making love and having sex. Either personally or for their partner. For example:

  • I am not sexually attracted to my partner now, and I used to be.
  • I don’t want to have sex with him.
  • Now that we’ve had kids, I’m not interested in sex.
  • It hurts to have sexual intercourse.
  • I feel insecure and unconfident about my sexual skills.
  • I’ve lost my libido and I don’t know where to find it!
  • It’s uncomfortable to make love.
  • I am not happy with my body image, size, shape etc.
  • My wife lost interest in sex when we had children, but I still need sexual release. (men
  • I have never had an orgasm and I want to have one (women.

I believe a lot of these issues start from a woman or a man’s first sexual experience. A woman’s pain is often a very deep wound.

Girls and romance

Many movies are romantic with kissing and tenderness and girls and teenagers are wooed with these ideas – where male lovers are romantic and gentle and treat women with love and respect and ask for consent.  They believe that these movies are real.

Boys and porn

Boys and men watch or read porn, where all women are wet, horny, ready and willing to do any act that a man can ask for. And men are always large, hard and able to have sex for hours and hours. They get the idea that these movies are real

Sex Ed

Most sexual education does not prepare women or men for their first sexual encounter. A teenage male does not look at photos of yonis and clitoris* (see photo above), to know that the sizes and shapes are different. He often does not know that a woman’s arousal takes a lot longer than his. He doesn’t know about women’s sensitive spots and erogenous zones, where to find them and how to stimulate them. And that women are different and have different reactions on different days and times. They often desire a slow, sensual lingering body stroking and teasing sensations. Sometimes they want it hot hard and fast!

Hymen

Teenage females (and males) are often not told about the hymen. The hymen is that little thin piece of skin which covers the external opening of the yoni. It will be broken the first time a woman has intercourse, which often results in bleeding and is always painful, physically and emotionally.

Even the word hymen, which is Latin, is the same in many languages and does not seem to be feminized in any way.

Virgins

So, for her first time, she is expecting a loving romantic gentle uplifting experience, and her fantasies are shattered by pain and blood. He is expecting an excited, wet easy and quick experience (just like masturbation) and as a result he can get performance anxiety!

Neither one knows what they are doing, and each is extremely disappointed.

Emotional trauma, shame and guilt, can result, especially if adolescents are not educated about these things. There is often emotional scarring and sex can often be associated with pain and trauma for the rest of her life.

So the next time, she is tense and fearful of pain, so she doesn’t relax. He is tentative and unsure, not wanting to hurt her either.

The woman cannot relax enough to enjoy making love with her male partner and sees it as an onerous duty.

Alternatives

Open communication and education is the key. Her mother, older sibling or peers can sometimes be helpful here. Books and the internet can be helpful or misleading information sources.

Conversely, if your first sexual experience is planned, consensual, and deliberately, gently and lovingly experienced, you can be more relaxed and open to orgasms.

I have included a photo of the whole clitoris*, as it is only the sensitive tip that is visible outside a woman’s body. Yes, it does look similar to external masculine genitals. The invisible bulbs are shown here as engorged when a woman is fully aroused. Being under a woman’s skin makes it difficult for both her and her partner to know what is going on. Verbal consent and communication is paramount for your mutual satisfaction and pleasure.

Other cultures

In some cultures, an older relative teaches the young person of the same or other gender. For example, an uncle teaches a young woman about sexuality and gender differences or an auntie or close female friend teaches the young man. Sometimes these liaisons (organized and condoned by parents) include the first penetration as well.

Sacred initiation ceremonies at puberty used to include instruction about sexual and spiritual matters by priests and priestesses or elders. These have been lost in modern times.

Orgasms

In life and sex men tend to focus on performance – their own or their partners. When they can let go of the big peak ejaculation, learn how to control their own desires and focus on creating the woman’s pleasure first, then they can have prolonged enjoyment. This makes more pleasure for both.

When women can learn to tune into their own feminine energy and learn how to have their own orgasms, without relying on their male partner, and also how to pleasure them, they can relax more easily and connect deeper.

There are many different types of orgasms – energy orgasms, nipple orgasms, clitoral orgasms, G spot orgasms. Even food orgasms!

Learning to Love Yourself

The key to overcoming these issues is learning how to love yourself, tuning in to your own sexual energy, tuning in to your body’s pleasure, and getting “out of your head”! This can take years or moments, therapy or discussion, confession or disclosure, everyone has a different path.

I can teach you body awareness with Tantric practices using breathwork and massage.

Interesting Fact: Many other mammals also have hymens for example, chimpanzees, horses, llamas, elephants, and whales. (Wikipedia)

If you have any questions or want to learn how to control your orgasm and ejaculation, pleasure your partner more, or have multiple orgasms,

ask Ally.

Shiva Shakti Love Ritual

Shiva Shakti Love Ritual for Couples

Here are some steps for couples to connect at a deep level, and to practice

  1. Both man and woman meditate separately on their love and connection. Share positive feelings to each other, one at a time.
  2. Share who or what you dedicate your orgasms to eg each other, or healing.
  3. Eye gazing with devotion for a couple of minutes in silence
  4. Breathing together: one starts breathing out loud on the exhale, the other follows to synchronize their energies.
  5. Lovers kisses, sharing breath and energy. Circular breathing – one breathes in as the other breathes out.
  6. The man holds the space in masculine presence. He sits down in a comfortable chair with no arms.  His shiva lingam is strong and erect. If not, he energizes it.
  7. The woman dances around him with her shakti energy, fully present in her full feminine energy.
  8. She sits astride him, on his thighs, genitals touching, and they rock together. He gets stronger and harder and she gets juicier
  9. She lowers herself, sitting on top of him, and slowly, inch by delicious inch, becomes fulfilled.
  10. He holds her hips and moves her up and down slowly or quickly, teasing or thrusting. Kisses abound to connect. Caresses enhance their connection

Her juices overflow and run down his balls. Her ankles cross to hold him firmly.
And her orgasmic screams echo his moans of pleasure.
She rides the waves of ecstasy, he is the rudder in her strong sea.
Then he slows, to ride his waves and controls his orgasm
to ride his own peaks and valleys,
hanging on to the edge and skimming
backwards and forwards across the edge.
They ride the waves of ecstasy for hours.

She leans back and puts her legs up.
Then she perches on top of his thighs.
He lies back and she rides his pommel until he begs her to stop.

They sit together softly kissing,
and the wave rises again.

They connect the stars and the planets

and expand into the oneness.

beyond words

beyond  description

There is unity of one body

There is no body

floating sensation

Connection

Bliss

and love.

Enjoy your Shiva Shakti Love Ritual practice!

Ally

Shiva Shakti Love Ritual for Couples yab yum
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Couples Playshop November 2022

Building a Deeper Connection for Couples and Lovers

Couples Playshop November 2022

Do you want to Empower your relationship?

  • How important is good connection and great communication and how much more pleasure do you want in your relationship?
  • Would you like to experience a more loving, intimate relationship with yourself and your partner?
  • Want to discover how much deeper, more blissfully and passionately you can go with your lover?

Then come along to this weekend to open your heart to new possibilities, empower your relationship and transform your love life!

I am organising a Couples weekend retreat in a private live-in venue south of Adelaide 

Friday 11, Saturday 12 and Sunday 13 November 2022.

To be included, save the date and book your spot NOW as places are limited to a maximum of 5 couples.

The Couples Playshop November 2022 retreat is called “Building a Deeper Connection for Couples and Lovers”.

How you benefit from Couples Playshop November 2022

  • 2 and a half days of Playshop to build a deeper connection with your partner (spouse, lover or close friend)
  • Comfortable quirky rustic accommodation (2 rooms and 3 caravan or camping sites available)
  • 2 healthy lunches Saturday and Sunday and dinner on Saturday night all included
  • Healthy morning and afternoon teas
  • Enjoy sharing and connecting with like-minded couples in a safe environment
  • Learn, practice and experience giving and receiving sensual massage with your partner to unite your body and soul and connect at a deeper level
  • Practice how to communicate your fears, desires, wants, needs and negotiate, as a result that each person is honoured and loved.
  • Easily set boundaries and make agreements for your mutual satisfaction in love and life

BOOK NOW to be involved in the transforming experience and join us, engagingly.

Investment

Early Bird Couple before 10/10/22 $700 paid in full (accommodation and most meals included)
Couples price paid in full after 11/10/22 $845  (accommodation and most meals included)
Couple Deposit $200 to hold your place (balance due by 30/10/22)

Program

  • Friday 6pm to 10pm
  • Saturday 10am to 10pm
  • Sunday 10am to 4pm.

More details and tickets HERE

or contact Ally

Ally

Ally Tantra with feather preparing for Couples Playshop November 2022
Ally and feather

Change

Change

“If you don’t like something, change it.
If you can’t change it,
change the way you think about it.”
Mary Engelbreit

I am My Lover - cover for Change
Change your Lover by loving your self more
  • How is your life?
  • Are you happy?
  • Are you doing what you are passionate about?
  • How do you pleasure your self?
  • Do you love your true love?

Change your Happiness

Happiness is a state of mind. Yes it can be inspired by a person, or word, an action, a sight. It’s still an internal thing, a personal thing.

If you’re feeling sad or unhappy, just feel that. Really FEEL that feeling. For just one minute. Then change your feelings by thinking of something or someone who makes you feel very happy and joyful. For example, sadness of the loss of a friend or family member can be felt briefly and then changed into a happy memory of that person or a shared moment with them.

Passion

Are you passionate about your job or vocation? If you are, that’s great! Celebrate!
If not, find a creative hobby that you love: for example, art or dancing or photography. It can give you something to look forward to at the end of the day, once a week or on the weekend. And it’s a good way to meet people and make new friends too.

True Love

To search for your true love, start with yourself. How would you like to be loved?
What would you like someone to say to you to express their love? Is it words of love or compliments? Flirting cheeky banter? Dirty talk? Sweet romantic poetry? How do you talk to your self? Change your self-talk to sexy words of affection.
Would you like to receive gifts? For example, flowers or cards or kisses? Buy your self some flowers and say enigmatically to your friends “they’re from a secret admirer!”

New Relationships

Are you scared of meeting a new person or starting a new relationship because your last partner hurt you? That new friend or lover is probably just as frightened. So make lots of new friends and have fun with them.

Remember to change your belief to “My next partner will be even better than the last one” and “Our relationship will be better than my wildest dreams”.

Eventually you can change your expectations, thoughts and beliefs to make these things happen.

Of course there will be some ups and downs, some self growth and some fun experiences on the way.

Self Pleasure

How do you pleasure yourself? Here are some examples:

Some people get pleasure from the feeling of wearing special new clothes, and the compliments of their friends.

The tingly bubbly taste of champagne, or a rich red wine; a creamy cold icecream on a steamy hot day; or a spicy hot chili dish can turn you on, one way or another.

Smelling his after-shave or her perfume or a spicy incense or lavender candle can get other people going.

How do you pamper yourself when you want to feel special? 

You can read a special sexy romantic book, look at sexy pictures, imagine your favourite lover (real or not) making love to you.

Shut your eyes and try caressing yourself with a feather, or a tissue. Gently stroke sweet-smelling body cream or oil on your legs, your arms, your whole body.

Whisper sweet words of love that you always wanted your lover to say to you…

Run your fingers through your hair slowly and sensuously.

(I have to go now, and continue this myself…)

Change the way you think and feel to change your life to one you love.

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Auset goddess of the throne or PC? also known as Isis

Background about Auset

I recently found out about the goddess Auset. She is an ancient Egyptian goddess. She is also known as Isis.

My research on Wikipedia revealed the following:

  • Auset is the venerated ancient Kemetic daughter of Geb (god of earth) and Nut (god of the heavens). In addition, she is the mother of Heru and husband of Ausar.
  • Kemetians represented her in the form of a throne, which represents the seat of power for the per-aa (pharaoh).
  • In the Theology of On (Heliopolis), she is part of the Pesedjet, the collective company or “family” of nine gods in the On cosmogony, which included Ra, Shu, Tefnut, Geb, Nut, Ausar, Her-wer, Set, and Nebt-het.
  • Auset represented the female productive forces in nature. Kemetians recognized her as a moon goddess and a mystic goddess of the supernatural associated with the tyet, a symbol of magic in Kemet.”

Tyet

tyet tiet or Isis Knot
  • The tyet (Ancient Egyptian: tjt), sometimes called the knot of Isis or girdle of Isis, is an ancient Egyptian symbol that came to be connected with the goddess Isis. Its hieroglyphic depiction is catalogued as V39 in Gardiner’s sign list. In many respects the tyet resembles an ankh, except that its arms curve down.
  • the tyet may be related to the ankh, for the tyet sign is often translated as “life” or “welfare.”
  • The origins of the amulet are unknown. As a knot, however, its symbolism in Egyptian thought can give us some clues. A knot involves the idea of binding and releasing, the joining of opposites, and, since a knot secures things, protection. Knot magic was well known in Egypt from an early period; an inscription in one of the pyramids states, “Isis and Nephthys work magic on Thee [Osiris] with knotted cords.”

Isis

  • Auset was also known as Isis, Egyptian Aset or Eset, she is one of the most important goddesses of ancient Egypt. Her name is the Greek form of an ancient Egyptian word for “throne.”
  • Isis was the Goddess of magic and wisdom. Isis was also known for her magical power, which enabled her to revive Osiris and to protect and heal Horus, and for her cunning. By virtue of her magical knowledge, she was said to be “more clever than a million gods”.

Wikipedia says about Isis: 

  • Isis (Ancient Egyptian: ꜣst; Coptic: Ēse; Classical Greek: Ἶσις Isis; Meroitic: Wos[a] or Wusa) was a major goddess in ancient Egyptian religion whose worship spread throughout the Greco-Roman world.
  • Isis was first mentioned in the Old Kingdom (c. 2686–2181 BCE) as one of the main characters of the Osiris myth, in which she resurrects her slain husband, the divine king Osiris, and produces and protects his heir, Horus.
  • She was believed to help the dead enter the afterlife as she had helped Osiris, and she was considered the divine mother of the pharaoh, who was likened to Horus.
  • Her maternal aid was invoked in healing spells to benefit ordinary people. Originally, she played a limited role in royal rituals and temple rites, although she was more prominent in funerary practices and magical texts.
  • She was usually portrayed in art as a human woman wearing a throne-like hieroglyph on her head. (Wikipedia)

My intuitive take on Auset goddess of magic and wisdom

Here are two pictures of Isis with her throne head-dress:

And here is what it could look like from the front:

Doesn’t it look like a laptop or computer with a screen and keyboard? And the top bit symbolises wifi or internet?!

As Auset Goddess of Magic and Wisdom, she is very clever and wise. All the symbols can be ancient representation and symbolism for technology that was more advanced that we dreamed! They are cleverly coded as symbols, birds, and sticks for people who don’t understand it.

What do you think? They could have built the pyramids with advanced technology we still dream about!

So Auset or Isis is a divine goddess, with much wisdom, healing, protection and magic, who heals people and also helps them ascend (hence her wings) to a better afterlife.

I am carrying on her work!

PURPOSE, LOVE AND SEX

Purpose

heart overflowing with LOVE

What if a man’s purpose is to learn how to pleasure a woman? To surrender to her seduction? To fully accept her love?

Is it a woman’s purpose to love a man enough to know how she wants to be loved, pleasured and sexed, and tells him, so that she can fully trust and surrender to his pleasuring, sex and love-making?

What is true love?

What is true sex?

Is it that that moment of bliss, euphoria? The elusive orgasm?

Or the ongoing desire, attraction and fulfilment of two people who want to connect their bodies, minds and spirits?

Is it riding the waves of pleasure, edging on that sweet spot of ecstasy?

Or that joyful feeling or seeing the pleasure of your lover?

And when you lose that spark, or that desire. How do you reignite it?

When you realize that your ‘sex switch’ is turned off, how do you turn it back on?

How to turn it back on

There are many ways. Here are some suggestions:

  • 1. Talk to your partner and reminisce about when you first met. What attracted you to each other? Discuss why you got married. What did you feel to want to commit to a lifetime together. Why did you start living together or being monogamous?
  • 2. Learn some tantric connection techniques, for example, eye gazing for three minutes. It works to connect strangers so why not someone you love? And practice them daily with your partner.
  • 3. Have a tantric couples session to learn more ways to connect and pleasure each other*
  • 4. Organize a Transformational Relationship Coaching session or program with Ally. These coaching sessions use NLP processes to release, emotions, clear blocks and reprogram your beliefs about yourself and your relationships.
  • 5. Have a tantric massage* for yourself – to get back in touch with your body and your sexual energy, your masculine or feminine energy. 

Love and pleasure are often indescribable and intangible. However, with Tantra, you can tune in to your body’s energy, get back in touch with your genitals, and learn new ways of loving yourself.

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Checklists

Men, want to learn how to:

☐ overcome Premature Ejaculation and Erection Dysfunction

☐ pleasure a woman

☐ have multiple orgasms  

☐ enhance your sexual performance  

☐ last longer and keep control  

☐ move your sexual energy?

Women, desire how to:

☐ Turn on your sexual energy   

☐ Empower your feminine energy

☐ Connect with your partner deeper, more easily 

☐ Unblock a chakra, or chakras   

☐ Trust        

☐ Let go and be open to love   

☐ Pleasure your partner more?

If you ticked any boxes, why not book with Ally NOW!

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