Men, Women & Tantra

Performance in the bedroom – feel inadequate?

Performance for Men – Do you feel sexually inadequate?

Performance anxiety is the big issue for most men.

Do you feel sexually inadequate? Are you worried and anxious about your performance? Has your libido dropped or gone away?
Is it big enough? Trouble getting it up? Keeping it up? Is it hard enough? Do you want stronger erections? To lasting longer? To be satisfied?Stressed out with work life and lack of sex and love?
Are you good enough for her? Satisfying her? Is she happy and wanting more?
Want to have multiple orgasms?

How to improve your Sexual Performance

With easy Tantra techniques you can learn how to control your sexual energy. Get your confidence back by tuning into your masculine sexual power..

Tantra Pleasure Experience is the first of a five part Tantra course which teaches men* how to:

  • control their orgasm and ejaculation (2 separate things) as well as helping erection strength, prostate health and general relaxation and well being;
  • use their sexual energy to achieve their sexual potential and move their sexual energy round their body;
  • pleasure a woman so she is juicy, ready and willing for great sex;
  • align your sexual energy with your partner to combine commune and unite in mutual energetic orgasms;
  • play and tease each other on a journey through your senses.

Premature ejaculation, erection dysfunction and healing from sexual abuse and trauma can be addressed with coaching and counselling in conjunction with Tantra Massage if necessary.

Extras like strip tease, yab yum position, Kundalini energy, GFE*, and G-spot techniques can also be included in your Tantric program*.

Act now! Sooner the better!

You deserve to enjoy your sex life with yourself and your partner! Contact Ally now to book your Tantra Pleasure Experience and Tantric program HERE

  • also for Women and Couples
  • GFE – Girl Friend Experience – see FAQ page for definition
  • more about Tantra Program for Men HERE
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worried about sexual performance?
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confused about your sexual performance and libido?
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satisfied with your sexual performance – and hers?

 

Tantra is tuning into your spiritual energy

Tantra is tuning into your spiritual energy

Your body is a portal or gateway through which you can tune into your spiritual energy.spiritual energy My Tantra Massage

Tantric breathwork, Kundalini energy, pranic breathing and some yoga and meditation practices have in common that they can awaken or open portals to other dimensions.

When your mind body and spirit are aligned, controlled and directed with spiritual ascension or enlightened intention, then your energy flows.

  • Conscious Breathing releases and relaxes mind chatter;
  • Touch and connection stimulates and satisfies the body’s sensual cravings;
  • And Spirit soars with the balance between thoughts and feelings – uplifted with unconditional love energy from your heart chakra.

One can direct or lead another to reach these places and spaces, with trust, instruction, energy and vibrational transmission. And the Receiver will transcend to the level of their experience. Some have a pleasant experience, some physical ecstasy, some mystical and others truly tantric full body orgasms or out of body experiences and spiritual energy orgasms.

When I tune in to the Love Grid and ask for love, light and healing for the person I am giving a Tantra Pleasure Experience, I open my energy as a clear channel to receive the flow of unconditional love into that person. Healing can be physical, mental, emotional or spiritual. The energy goes to where it is needed. Reiki energy flows with heat and strength, filling me up with its powerful healing, healing me, then overflowing into the person to heal their wounds and fill them with unconditional love.

I call it Tantric spiritual energy. It has no name really. It has a flow and never ceases. It can be very strong, hot and insistent. And it can be extremely soft, gentle and light. Always healing. Always unconditionally loving. And the empty spaces inside us that have been lonely and separated and unloved are filled up, connected and energised with the most beautiful feeling in the world: LOVE.

Ally

30/4/18

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To tune into your tantric spiritual energy with a Tantra Pleasure Experience for Men, Women or Couples today bookings HERE

Heart Energy Healing

Do you have a broken heart? Is your heart empty? Can you feel your heart energy? How do you love your self?

Heart video by Ally – click on pic to go to video

heart energy healing with Ally

Do you want to know how to heal your broken heart? What is the way you can fill your empty heart with love for your self? How do you tune into your heart chakra (energy field)?

Can learning about Tantra and energy help me with this?

I was asked some of these questions recently. Which led me to thinking about my self love, my heart, and how I help others heal using my heart and heart energy.

I was surprised to learn that our heart has a huge electromagnetic field. It is bigger than the brain, and picks up more information from our environment and sends it to our brain than our brain sends to our heart!

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Electromagnetic Field of Your Heart

Did you know that you radiate an electromagnetic field when you feel love? And that doesn’t have to be romantic or emotional love. It can be unconditional love – for a friend or pet as well as your lover. It’s the unconditional love that heals.

Well, I instinctively knew that, however there is now research that confirms it.

Reiki energy, for example, is given freely for healing when a person needs it. And when you have a massage, there is often an intention of healing – of body, mind or spirit. Especially a relaxing massage or a sensual massage. They are given with love, with heart energy, with no expectation of return. So the result, if the receiver is open to it, can often be healing of some kind. Either expected or unexpected.

When you trust, relax and surrender to being pleasured, to receiving the love and healing and energy that your lover, friend or masseuse/masseur is giving you, then you can enjoy the bliss of relaxing, floating, and releasing all that you need to let go of, including tension and stress, to heal mind body and spirit.

I help people relax and open up their body so they can open up to receive universal love energy, coming into their body to heal and fill up their heart with joy and bliss and love.

Book here now to heal your heart with a Tantric session with Ally.

Here is the link to the video about the electromagnetic field of the heart.

 

latest quotes from Ally

Quotes by Ally

Some of my favourite quotes to share with you:

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Tantra is tuning in to your sexual energy – as well as being aware of your body and breath ~Ally Thomas 2017

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Tantra Massage can heal and release things to help you move on in your life – back into your power and confidence – Ally Thomas

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There’s enough pain in life without having more in a massage!
So enjoy a Tantra Pleasure Experience – Ally Thomas

BOOK YOUR TANTRA MASSAGE HERE NOW

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Love is an expression of the willingness to create space in which something is allowed to change – by Harry Palmer, (creator of Avatar personal development program)

Am I too old for Sex?

TOO OLD FOR SEX?

Often I am asked “Am I too old to have sex?” Its mainly by “older” people in their 60s 70s and 80s who have a good sex life and good sex drive!

My answer is “NO! Sex is ageless!” and I think that everyone should have sex as often and as long as they can, as long as they enjoy it and get pleasure from it.

Then there’s the meaning of “sex”. Sexual intercourse is the usual meaning – physical penetration lingam (penis) into yoni (vagina). What about Tantric sex?

Tantra is a Sanskrit word which means “to weave and to expand”. Tantric sex can be energetic with no physical penetration. Breathing together and connecting your energy with your lover can be a blissful peak experience.

“Tantric sex” is energetic. It does not have to be physical. Often if he cannot get or sustain a strong erection and/or she is not wet enough, then Tantric energy is a wonderful way to share your love and feelings for each other.

Energy Orgasm

Energy orgasm starts with being aware of your own sexual energy. Tuning in to it, feeling it flowing through your body. Moving it around consciously. Making it stronger and bringing it up and down. Controlling it for multiple orgasms by yourself.

Then, after much solo practice, tuning in to another persons’s energy. Breathing together to synch your energies together. Again moving it around. Weaving it between yourself and your partner. With unconditional love. Connecting together. Moving together. Expanding it through your bodies and playing with it – swirling, floating, expanding more and more. Until you both reach the peak of the wave of ecstasy. Flowing down the other side and smoothly floating up to the next peak of the wave.

You both ride the waves – sometimes she leads him up there and sometimes he is the leader. With tingles and shudders, tremors and kriyas, vibrating together in orgasmic bliss.

Hours can pass. Timelessly floating and flowing on waves of energy. This is tantric communion.

No time, no space, just the wonder-full dance of energy between two souls in space. Transcending all. Expanding into the universe in oneness and enjoyment.

If you would like to learn more about Energy Orgasms, contact Ally for lessons for Men, Women or Couples; or buy a copy of her book “What Men and Women Really Want – 6 Tantric Love Secrets”.

Am I too old for sex? No of course not!!

am i too old for sex

Lingam Massage – How To

Pleasure His Wand of Light

The Sanskrit language is very poetic. It names the penis as lingam, which means wand of light. And the Sanskrit word for pussy is yoni, which means sacred garden

Its much more romantic for a man to ask a woman “Can I play in your sacred garden with my wand of light?”

And if she asks him “Can I play with your wand of light?”” he feels the confidence of a Jedi Knight!

So how does she do this?

Set up for a Lingam Massage

  1. After a refreshing shower or romantic spa bath, set up your sacred space. It can be a massage table, or a mattress of the floor in lounge. In winter, in front of the fire; in summer outside in your secluded shady back yard.
  2. Slowly undress him, teasingly stroking his clothes off his body
  3. He lies on his front, you gently stroke his back with your fingers. Rake or tickle your fingernails around his buttocks, up his legs. Gently stroke his perineum (the sensitive ridge between his balls and anus)
  4. Watch his back as he breathes and tune your breath into his (slower or faster if necessary)
  5. After plenty of exploring his whole back, arms, legs, neck with relaxing easing strokes, ask him to turn over (he wont be asleep, just very relaxed)
  6. Start by teasing his legs with your fingernails and finger tips, then stroking with your hands up to his chest and down his arms. Then nibble or tweak his nipples. What does he like best?
  7. Kiss him from his toes to balls. Then up to his tummy to his nipples, neck, ears, teasing until you get to his forehead, then his lips. Move slowly back down to his toes.
  8. An option now (if his legs are apart) is to climb on the table from his feet or sit on the mattress between his knees. Crawl slowly up his body to lie on top and kiss him. He can play with your breasts if you sit on top of his tummy – still teasing!! It takes good control by a woman not to stop there! Do a couple of body slides if you want to tease him more. Sometimes you get stuck…
  9. Then slide down and kneel between his knees (if you are comfortable with the height of the massage table – easy if you re on a mattress or low couch). Now you can explore and play with balls and lingam and tease a bit more.
  10. Cover your hands with oil and gently apply it to his wand of light, stroking slowly and gently. Watch his face and check where he is as far as arousal. Usually his lingam will tell you!!

Strokes for His Wand of Light

  1. Ironing – both your hands are flat. Start with palm on base of lingam and slowly, firmly, move your hands all the way up his lingam and up to his chest, so that your whole forearm strokes it. Repeat with the other hand and arm, bringing each stroke around his nipple and down the side of his body, back to lingam. Repeat as many times as you like and as he likes…
  2. Lemon Squeezer – with plenty of oil on your palms, rub the tip (glans) of his lingam with your palm, as if you are squeezing a lemon. Do this gently the first time as sometimes the lingam is very sensitive. Ask to find the correct amount of pressure to apply. Watch his pleasure on his face.
  3. Ice Cream – lick from the base of the lingam up to the tip. Then nibble down one side, then the other. Flick your tongue p and down the wand of light and see hi face light up!! Lick around the edge of the glans to tease him. Watch his eyes go up to the top of his head! Gently suck just the head and lick the frenulum (spot where ^ of glans) to tease him more.

Alternate and repeat these Lingam Massage strokes until your Sacred Garden is well watered and ready to receive his Wand of Light.

Or book a Couples Session and learn directly from Ally how to do these strokes:


 

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Tantric Actions for better Sex

Five Tantric Actions for Better Sex

Why Tantric Sex?

  • To connect
  • To create intimacy
  • To turn on
  • To stimulate
  • To control.

    2. Conscious Breathing to create intimacy

  • Ask your partner to breath out and make a sound – a moan or aaah….
  • Breathe with them and harmonise your breathing. One person may be slower or faster than the other at the beginning.
  • Do this for about 2 minutes
  • When you harmonise you can hear it
  • Swap over and your partner follows your breathing

    2. Eye Gazing to connect

  • Sit together, facing each other, without talking and look in each others eyes for about 5 minutes
  • Feel the love in your heart for your lover
  • Breathe together, decide who will follow and who will lead

    3. Physically turn yourself on

  • As you breathe in, do your Kegels (squeeze your Pelvic Floor or PC muscles)
  • Release as you breathe out
  • Do this for about 5 minutes separately, then do it together
  • To get your energy and juices flowing

    4. Leather and Lace circle – to stimulate

  • Breathe together, sitting holding hands, eyes open or closed
  • HE gives his “leather” (male energy) – breathing up from his genitals to her heart down to her genitals across to yours
  • SHE gives her “lace” – (female energy) – from your heart to his heart and down to his genitals, across to her genitals and up to her heart.
  • This is good to do in yab yum – sitting with legs out or bent and genitals touching
  • rocking back and forwards – very stimulating and a great way to start making love

5. Control your energy

  • Continue conscious breathing together
  • When lingam* is inside yoni**, keep the energy flowing in a circle…

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* lingam = penis                        ** yoni = vagina

  • Stop when necessary to keep control, or change position.
  • Enjoy!

 For more ideas on how to use Tantra and simple practical Tantric techniques to enhance your sex life, see my book “What Men and Women Really Want – 6 Tantric Love Secrets” available now in paperback. Order here.

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Tantric Sex Coach

What does a Tantric Sex Coach do? First of all, what is Tantra? What is Tantric Sex? Why do you need a Coach?

Everyone loves sex, but how do we learn about it? if you are lucky you learn from an older partner, or a more experienced lover. Most people learn from their peers, as teenagers, using the “trial and error” method.

Some people want to improve their sex life. Many men want to learn control so they can last longer and pleasure their lover longer.

A lot of women don’t know how to “turn themselves on” sexually – how to tune in to their feminine sexual energy or how to really enjoy making love  with their partner.

Tantra

Tantra comes from ancient India. Taoist teachings from ancient China are similar to Tantra. The word Tantra means to expand and weave. That’s what you learn to do – expand your sexual energy and weave it around your body and between you and your partner.

Tantric Sex

Tantric Sex is that close connection you have that can lead to out-of-body ecstatic orgasmic sex and pleasure that seems to last for ever. It can take you to other places, other spaces, and an expanded sense of beingness. Many people have tried to explain it, but the experience is beyond words, beyond description. You know that you have been “out there” or “in there” or “away somewhere” because you feel yourself “coming back”!

How do you create that connection? How can you do that, step by step, whenever you want? Tantric techniques are the answer. Breathing, moving, and consciously being present with your self and your partner, are some of the keys.

Tantric Sex Coach

A Tantric Sex Coach guides and teaches you (and your partner) Tantric exercises so that you can get to those heights. Men can learn to control their orgasm and ejaculation so they can have multiple orgasms. Women can learn how to get in touch with their sexual energy and enhance it to relax and enjoy more pleasure making love.

Coaching in intimacy and sexuality is more than teaching you how to have mind-blowing sex! It’s more about Sex Ed – education about your sex organs, how your sexual energy works, and about what YOU like best. It’s about loving yourself, self pleasuring, learning new strokes for your partner, and much more…

It’s breathing together to create closer intimacy and connection. Tantra can be very healing on many levels.

So what are you waiting for? Book your session with Ally, Tantric Sex Coach, today to enhance your sex life, ignite your passion and have more joy and blissful pleasure.

Tantric Sex Coach Ally Thomas Adelaide

Sacred Feminine Adelaide Playshops

Sacred Feminine Adelaide Playshops

CALLING ALL WOMEN!

Explore your Sacred Feminine energy in Australia in 2019. Sacred Feminine Playshops are to educate and empower women about sacred sexuality, and help heal shame, guilt and fear with sensuality and love.

  • Do you want to tune into your Sacred Feminine Energy?
  • Empower your spiritual energy? Open your heart to love and radiance
  • To learn more about spiritual sacred energy and how to enhance it more?
  • Use Tantric breathwork for grounding, moving your energy, unblock your chakras to heal and energize
  • Connect with your spiritual guides and angels
  • Reconnect magic, passion, feel deep love and powerful female energy
  • Use meditation, dance, movement and Tantric techniques to tune into your unique divine energy

These Sacred Feminine Playshops have been held in Rockhampton, Brisbane, Hobart, and in 2017 about 60 women attended one at the Nyari Niara (Good Spirits) Festival on Bruny Island.

Using exercises from her book, ‘What Men and Women Really Want – 6 Tantric Love Secrets”, Ally includes meditation, dance, movement and fun easy spiritual exercises and techniques to give you a taste of Tantra, to tune into your Sacred Feminine energy and use them in your life to love yourself more.

  • Wednesday 7 March from 7pm-9pm – #1 – Sacred Feminine Evening – What do Women Really Want? This informative and experiential includes a healthy light supper, meditation, dance, movement and fun easy spiritual exercises and techniques
    Venue TBA Unley
    Women only. Bring a friend. $30 each. Book HERE or Contact Ally to secure your place
  • Wednesday 14 March from 7-10pm – #2 Sacred Feminine Evening – Spiritual Energy movement. Expand your feminine Tantric experience. Learn how to have an orgasm without touching yourself.
    Venue TBA Unley
    For the brave and sensual woman. Maximum 10 ladies. Wear comfy trousers. $30 each. Book HERE.
  • Book for both Evenings for $50 if paid in advance (eftpos, PayPal or DD, VISA and MasterCard add 3% fees)
  • Sunday 21 July 2019 from 10am to 4pm – Sacred Feminine Playshop – Enhance your feminine Tantric experience. Learn how to have an orgasm without touching yourself – fully clothed!
    Venue: Flaxley, close to Mt Barker, Adelaide Hills
    Maximum 10 ladies. Wear comfy trousers.
    Cost: $95 or bring a friend for $180 – if paid by 21-6-19,
    $105 paid by 21-7-19 – includes delicious healthy lunch.
    Plus $15 if you want to sleep over.
    Payment by Visa, MasterCard, Paypal, DD or cash. Book HERE.

Sacred Feminine Adelaide Evenings have also been held in Brisbane, Rockhampton and Hobart. And can be available wherever you can gather a minimum of 6 ladies – then you have yours free! Contact Ally to arrange date now

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a woman in harmony with her spirit is like a river flowing

Sacred Feminine Adelaide with Ally

Sacred Feminine Adelaide with Ally

Sex Secret – Connection

Sex Secret Connection

Both men and women tell me they haven’t had sex or made love with their spouse for 6 moths, 12 months, 2 years, 5 years…sex secret connection kissing couple

It is so sad that people who love each other and have a wonderful sex life and then something happens and it’s gone. Something kills the desire and after awhile you could feel that you don’t “need” sex or love making.

How did you reconnect and reignite that desire for your lover?

  • Go back to the beginning of relationship and talk about it.   What attracted you to your partner when you first met them? Tell them. And ask them what first attracted them to you? Talk about your first date, your first kiss, your first lovemaking. What was special?
    Why you still together?
    Rekindle that spark of love that grew into a fire and kept burning for so many years. If your children are grown up and left you need to rediscover your partner.
    Everyone goes through changes. In teenagers, testosterone and progesterone hormones are strong stimulants, however as we mature they change many peoples’ desires. And in some couples one person, usually the man, maintains a strong need for release from sexual tension.
    Women’s desires often decrease after childbirth and child care because they put so much time into mothering and nurturing.
    So how to rekindle the passion and connect with your lover?
  • Plan a date night, flirt with each other by text or phone or love notes (under her pillow, in his pocket). Give surprise gifts for no occasion.
  • Plan a “dirty weekend” away. Ask her what would she need to happen to make  love? Ask him to give you a gentle massage. Tell him how you really like to be touched, kissed, licked and stroked. Tell her and show her how you like to be stroked on your lingam – fast or slow, gentle or firm, the special sensitive spots…
  • Have some lessons in cunnilingus or Tantra or massage together.
  • Role play or dress up in a costume for your lover. Imagine you are Casanova or Marilyn Munro; Cleopatra and Antony; or porn stars – John Holmes, Debbie Does Dallas! What do you imagine they would say or do to their beloved? Talk about it with your lover. Ask if they want to do it. Ask if it turns them on more to talk about it, look at it, plan it, or to do it?!
  • Give your genitals names. Then they can have a discussion. Using this analogy of a different identity can help you express things that you wouldn’t normally say. Ask her what she wants. Ask him what are you would like to do. The answers often surprise you!

When you reconnect and reawaken that desire for your beloved – you do it deliberately. And when you do you say to each other “I’d forgotten how good it was to have sex and make love!”

That is the sex secret connection!

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