Men, Women & Tantra

Erotic or Kinky

What’s the difference between Erotic and Kinky?

It’s the difference between using a feather or using a whole chicken!Erotic_Vs_Kinky_Pratchett

I love this quote! I recently found out that this famous quote was made by Terry Pratchett, the author of Discworld books, plays and other amazing stories.

So what is erotic? Is it sexual, turn on, teasing, imagination, fantasy, romantic, sensual, vanilla?

And what does “kinky” conjur up for you? Is it fantasy, BDSM, fetish, hard, bondage, sensations, orgies, groups, or something else…

And where is the edge between erotic and kinky? Is it in definition? Is it a boundary? Who decides?

Does kinky spice up your ordinary sexual experience? How often do you have to do it to make it kinky? Once or many times?

Kinky Fetish Bondassage

Bondassage can be kinky. It is a sensual, edgy combination of massage, sensory deprivation and sensation play, which can be relaxing, erotic or exotic!

Tantra Pleasure Experience – Tantra Massage

A Tantra Pleasure Experience is Erotic, Sensual, connecting. Some people think Tantra is Kinky, however once you experience it, your perspective shifts. I help you experience Tantra with a massage, a sensual massage, which relaxes and invigorates you, connects you to your self, and can heal your feeling of separation from the world. So instead of a little feather, you become integrated with the whole chicken, the egg and the universe!

Book now for Tantra or Bondassage session with Ally. More info for Men Women Couples

** A couple more good quotes from Terry Pratchett below

Namaste

Ally

Terry Pratchett quote about naked witches
Do witches work naked?
TerryPratchett Passion Fire
How to warm a man?

Tantric Energy Love – erotic poem

Tantric Energy

Inside is out (my body is inside out)
Outside is in (stars inside me).

Spaces in eternity

textures in energy

creative in spaces

linked by strands

moving continuously

peaceful and calm

not separate, integrated.

How to create

Convert this beingness

To tangible useful?

Using this energy

Building tiny pieces

Strengthening the strands

Tying and weaving

Fabric of stars.

Dancing together

Weaving the music

The magic of love

Energy

Is

Bliss…

tantric energy stars

by Ally 2006

I wrote this poem after a very tantric love making session with a very good lover, and it is a small echo of the experience. I tried to capture the essence of the feeling in the first two lines…

tantric energy
Tantric Energy by Ally My Tantra Massage

Tantra is Sexuality and Spirituality

I used to think that sexuality and spirituality were at the opposite ends of the spectrum. Tantra brings them together. It adds another dimension to sex, changing it from a purely physical act to something beyond.

Tantra combines awareness, mindfulness, meditation – bringing trust respect and love – with the connection of breath and energy of two people.tantra couple sexuality and spirituality

Changing the scenario of one person wanting sex and the other “putting up with it” or one being hyperactive and the other too tired, using tantric awareness of breath brings  your energies into balance and harmony.

As in yoga and martial arts, body awareness is also important in tantra. Awareness of your body, whether tense or relaxed and exploring your partners body and your states of arousal are important. Knowing how to turn YOUR SELF on, with breath, physical movements and mind power means that you can control your sexuality – to turn it on or make the feelings stronger. Tantra gives you keys to do this easily.

Sounds are a simple way of communicating – breathing aloud, moaning, cooing, aums, giggling, your loving feelings to each other. Silence in sex can be frustrating, so ask your partner what they would like (before or during). Communicate what you would like to do, to receive, as you feel in the moment. Keep it positive!

Or set up a scenario – role play, dress up, act a fantasy out. It can be a surprise spontaneous by one person for the other, or a planned scene by both of you together. If you know she wants to act out “50 Shades of Grey” scenario, get some clothes and appropriate gear and surprise her. If he wants to bring in his strong Warrior identity, she can set the scene and you both unfold a co-creation together.

Start your tantric session with a short meditation, a simple dedication to each other. Use candles and incense to set the scene for spiritual tantric sexuality. Honour your partner for the goddess she is, and respect him for the wonderful loving man that he is.

One at a time, tell the other some positive things about them, how much you love them, one person speaks and the other listens. Then thank each other and say what you would like to receive in your tantric lovemaking. Then make sure you give your partner what they ask for, with love and respect.

Afterwards, when you are basking in the after glow, give positive, honest appreciations to each other. How much you enjoyed it – the expected and unexpected aspects of your lovemaking. And give thanks to the Great Spirit, to Source, or whatever name you give to that which connects us, to the Allness of Being, that joins sexual and spiritual together in us.

Tantra is an interconnected combination of sexuality and spirituality

Ally

2014